ETA- Furthermore...Have you and your Partner had to go down the ART road to conceive your children???
Unless you have, it's all good you surveying your husband/his mates on what he/they *think* they would do/feel in the same situation, but unless you've actually experienced it or are experiencing it yourself, it's a moot point and a waste of time as the truth of the matter is you have NFI what you'd do, think, feel or how you'd behave unless or until you go through it yourelf.
You can take it from me that most people have all sorts of irrational thoughts and feelings about all sorts of different things and the way they manifest themselves in your own head is different for everyone, but the theme(s) can be and often are similar among people/sexes.
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30-05-2016 07:44 #101
Last edited by BlondeinBrisvegas; 30-05-2016 at 08:06.
30-05-2016 07:46 #102
30-05-2016 07:59 #103
I'm pulling back from this thread.
I have reached out for help on an issue that is a serious one and very destructive.
I do not feel comfortable with a male fertility Dr. or Gynaecologist. Simple.
Except for a select few of you who have actually helped me to dig and think and you would know who you are, all I have received is nastiness, judgement and to be told I have a problem. No **** Sherlock. That's why I'm ****ing here.
Spent the day talking to women I don't know? Nay, I spent the day talking to people I thought might be able to help me make my partners life easier because of a problem that I have. She was sitting right next to me the whole day. We had a lazy day inside.
And how dare any of you to mention a fear of me having a daughter. I don't know exactly what you were getting at, but if you were a man saying that to my face it would have earned you a very broken nose. I care for my family deeply, including my two nieces who are 1 and two years old, that are left in my care frequently. I will kill any person that aimed to harm them.
Perhaps that's my problem. Caring too much.
Thank you for all your posts everyone. Some of them were quite helpful.
But for now, I am going back to doing what I do. Not talk about it.
If this experience has shown me anything, the stereotype of a bunch of women in a room is very true.
Thank you to those who stood up for me.
30-05-2016 08:02 #104
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30-05-2016 08:41 #107
30-05-2016 08:49 #108
I love these two girls like they are my own. I'm not going to stand and talk someone to death if they aimed to harm them.
As for the broken nose, I stand by that. How might you react if someone were to cleverly cover up the implication that you were some sort of pedophile? I'm not sure that's what it was, but that's how I read it.
I doubt you would react favourably to that.
As for the stereotype, the only ones who would be offended by this in the thread would be those that fit the bill. I highly doubt that any one of the people here that have been helpful, calm and objective would be offended by that statement.
I stand by my post.
30-05-2016 09:05 #109
It's the possessiveness and ownership in his "tone" which needs to be discussed with a professional.
Re: children, similar to other posters, what if a daughter required a male doctor for whatever reason?
What if his wife, god forbid, needed emergency care by a male GP during labour?
It is not "normal" to sexual medical procedures. And I'm not convinced this stems from inadequacy due to MFI.
30-05-2016 09:07 #110
Seriously threats against a poster for saying he couldn't be trusted around his own children because others feel uncomfortable about his honesty?
This thread makes me pretty sad. Yes the initial posts by the op were a bit odd but appreciating the context of his situation I now have a lot of sympathy for him. He has acknowledged his feelings about male doctors is not normal. He is looking for help.
Unless you have been through IVF particularly for MFI the judging is completely unnecessary.
And yep if anyone told my husband he needs to be watched around his own daughters I'd wager he'd probably feel like breaking their nose too.
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