Transitioning DD to cot atm and using CC.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
I'm just going with what works each day.
She's only just 3 months- it took me a year to regulate my sleep...assume it will take time for her also.
Thankfully she sleeps well at night. Not sure I could do CC then... during the dat I am busy doing stuff so can switch off for a few mins before popping in and starting again. At night it would ruin my sleep as it takes me up to an hour to fall asleep.
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26-05-2016 13:20 #131
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26-05-2016 13:24 #133
Stepping into this thread tentatively after making the mistake of reading through many vitriolic hateful comments in regards to this issue on a separate Facebook page, which really upset me. I suffer from PND and I have a 10 week old. I also had it with my DD (now 4) but it wasn't as severe. Both my DS and DD were/are shocking sleepers: they both take ages to settle down, and prone to catnapping and waking frequently through the night. Lack of sleep is a major, major trigger for my PND and makes coping day to day so much harder. I have limited family support in place, my DH is my main support and he works long hours (but when home he's amazing).
Bub Hub is generally a really supportive community and people are usually respectful so I feel safe here to share my thoughts. But it's still difficult to admit that you let your baby cry / grizzle. There are so many very strong opinions on the topic and medical opinion is divided. Lots of people truly believe it's a form of abuse to let babies cry.
For me, this study changes nothing as I'm trying my very best to parent through this awful fog of depression, listening to my heart and instincts and of course my baby's cues. I'm also reading up on lots of different research about settling and self settling, and am satisfied that what I'm doing is right: for my baby, my family and me. It allows me time and space to be with my eldest child who has struggled with the transition to a family of four, and has regressed in certain behaviours. It gives my DS space to settle himself when he is extremely prone to overstimulation. It allows me to rest my back and pelvis which are prone to strain. And it's giving me some precious sanity back. Before I would face my day with a sense of dread. Now I know what I'm doing, I know that DS will settle and not be horrendously overtired and screaming once we hit 3pm. And DS is feeding better and his reflux is all but gone. The positive flow ons have been worth a little bit of grizzling in the short term.
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26-05-2016 14:03 #137
Controlled Crying study
I'm plenty comfortable with doing cc, my babies are happy and healthy and loving and attached, but what I'm not comfortable with is being judged for doing so and having to justify and defend why I've done it time and time again
26-05-2016 14:56 #138
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26-05-2016 15:03 #139
Also just to throw into the mix. For many of us that do a bit of cc it's about short term pain = long term gain. Before I used this approach my baby would scream for hours due to overtiredness and hunger/pain (while I held him) and for only 20 mins at a time, whereas now he grizzles and cries for a few minutes before going to sleep, but can stay asleep for longer and is so much happier when awake. The crying has decreased drastically overall, even though there are short periods of time when yes, he does cry a bit on his own.
Also people need to really get their heads around the difference between cc/CIO. And also a grizzle and a full on, rhythmic cry. Huge differences.
26-05-2016 15:31 #140
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