It's a really subjective topic and I think that's why I'm so keen to hear from people who have gone through profound gender disappointment, so I can see that side of it given I have zero understanding of it.
I can see why it's not legal but as a very liberal minded person (in its literal sense, not politically speaking) I'm struggling to come up with a valid reason why it shouldn't be legal. The more we make progress in science and technology, the more we are going to challenge the ideas and push the boundaries of what's morally and ethically right. No doubt before IVF became main****** people were having this very discussion about whether we should allow it as a practice.
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21-05-2016 19:30 #83
I've got 2 boys and frozen embryos. If it was available would i test mine to see if there is a girl in there? Not sure really. I wouldn't personally judge someone who did though.
21-05-2016 19:31 #84
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21-05-2016 19:31 #85
Gender disappointment isn't about not loving the kids you have but mourning the kids that you don't have. I do totally get that.
As someone who had their first baby very easily doing IVF only to massively struggle second time around I hate the term "gratitude" when used in terms of children and families. I used to be told to be grateful I had one when all I wanted was another. It didn't make my sadness any better it only made it worse. It made me feel like an awful person.
21-05-2016 19:36 #86
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21-05-2016 19:36 #87
I dont really have an issue with it.
To be honest, the number of people who will put their bodies through IVF (without even considering the cost) just to get a specific gender is in the minority. Its only going to be for those who are desperate for that sex ...
As long as its not funded by medicare, I have no real issues.
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21-05-2016 19:45 #90
Should gender selection for non medical reasons be legal in Australia
This has actually been a great thread & a really interesting read with varied, and thoughtful opinions.
As someone who has lost five babies & is still yet to have a child, I would be beyond thrilled to have just one healthy baby of either sex. However this question did come up when DH & I were researching donor options & depending on the circumstances I don't think it's a terrible thing.
The way I was thinking about it was if I had six quality embryos & was transferring one, would it really matter if the doctor picked one at random or I said "please pop a girl one in"? I don't have problem with that scenario. However if all six embies were boys I'd shrug & laugh & know that I was meant to be raising boys. So that is not really the gender disappointment scenario but if you were already doing IVF then I think having the choice which embie gets transferred first doesn't hurt anyone.
Undergoing IVF purely for gender selection is a more difficult one but again if someone is willing to put themselves through that & pay for it, then I don't think it's very different from the ethics of IVF right now - embies are going to be discarded in both scenarios, so selecting embie A or embie B due to gender is not a big deal to me.
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