I don't really have an issue with it.
I don't think it is any different to when prospective parents request either sex when they are adopting (not sure if they are still able to do this, but they used to be able to).
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22-05-2016 20:52 #191
22-05-2016 20:58 #192
I can't also understand why people listen to certain music but I'm not about to make that illegal either.
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22-05-2016 20:58 #193
22-05-2016 21:11 #194Senior Member
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You can't have it both ways. You can't say it's insulting to call something a mental health issue on the one hand, then want people to treat it as a serious mental health issue that requires a change of law, on the other.
22-05-2016 21:35 #195
But I agree that the stereotypical boy/girl roles are not all that typical.
But, on hair colour, in my experience boys/men do get 'commented on' too. Red heads in particular. Not just as children.
To those who say their hair colour does not matter in their career, I am curious- are you blond? Because, tbh, that is the colour (aside from red) that gets a bad rap. I speak as a white blond (hair I mean).
For me, I have a bio daughter, a step daughter and a step son. Based purely on my experience during my pregnancy with DD, I can talk to a female child more 'intimately' than a male child because they have the parts.
As in, if my daughter gets pregnant I can be detailed and relate. If my son's partner gets pregnant, I can give detail but not relate (to him. I could to DIL of course).
Does that make sense? I don't have boy parts or relate to things from the viewpoint of a male, so I wouldn't quite be able to share it in the same way.
Having said all that, when I found out I was pregnant, I wanted a boy rather than a girl. But I am happy with DD
On the mental health aspect... if GD is considered a mental health thing, then it is a medical reason.
Sure, we can 'treat' it, but it remains a medical reason and therefore should be a valid reason for GS.
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22-05-2016 21:41 #196
For the vast majority of people, having some disappointment isnt a mental health issue, it just takes a fair amount of adjustment. For some though, it does indeed create mental health problems that need addressing.
So yes - it can be both ways. It can be a mental health condition - but assuming that everyone who would prefer a specific gender and would like to be able to choose has a mental health condition isnt good either.
Some people would like to be able to choose the gender of their baby ... for whatever circumstances ... but it doesnt mean that they need serious help.
22-05-2016 21:43 #197
When I was on the partnership program I had very blonde hair. It was never relevant.
As for my comment about gender neutral, it's bizarre how you've taken it to be honest. Without detailing what my kids play with and how they play I'm not sure how you can say it's not gender neutral.
My eldest only plays Lego and minecraft or reads books. And no princess Lego. She builds robots and houses and cars.
My second is obsessed with horses and gymnastics. She spends most of her free time upside down or having horse riding lessons. Or doing maths problems. She is obsessed with maths.
My son plays with play doh, kinetic sand (although it's the devils work and is not allowed in the house anymore) and slime. He loved my little pony and Dora. But mainly he plays whatever is older sister is playing.
And my 2 year old plays with the others.
I don't see our house as particularly boy or girl oriented. It's not by design just how it's worked out.
22-05-2016 21:46 #198
I'm interested as to why some have gd too. I do find it sad and hard to understand how some can't/don't accept the child they have due to the sex. While I had 3 boys I never once felt disapointment even when having our third knowing he was a boy and knowing he was our last. Dh would have liked a girl, his desire was much stronger than mine, because we had to do ivf anyway we did contemplate doing gs when planning number 3. We easily excepted we wouldn't be having a girl though.
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22-05-2016 21:54 #199
As I said, it was based purely on the examples given (not sure how that is bizarre)- girls listening to boy bands and playing Frozen.
It wasn't me saying I didn't believe your house isn't gender neutral.
Just that if you are saying it's not, it would be clearer with examples for both gender stereotypes
22-05-2016 21:57 #200
Anything taken to the extreme really is an issue. As a PP pointed out GD is like grief, and most people, after a period of time recover and those that don't might need some external help - and there is nothing wrong with that.
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