I am a very curious person, but mostly I am interested in other people's lives. I love to hear how people are feeling, how people are "living" their lives, what influences their decision-making. I love hearing people's "stories". Probably why I became a doctor...I like chatting to people!
So I would definitely ask the questions above. Not that I have a bias towards girls or boys, private or public hospitals. I have my own preference about the latter, but that's mine, not others.
People will always ask questions of a pregnant lady, or a lady with a young bub. Pregnancy and parenting is a very common experience, after all. I think in pregnancy and motherhood we can be a bit too "precious" about it all, and forget that billions have done it before us.
Would you rather no-one gave a crap, and asked you nothing?
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22-05-2016 09:51 #141Senior Member
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22-05-2016 10:00 #143
@J37 just a bit of background: I had a homebirth so asking "which hospital I was going to" was both an assumption and a very personal question when you don't want other people's opinions of homebirth so would rather not discuss it.
As a mother I'm very protective of my son. I don't view it as being precious. I don't want him to be inhibited by sterotypes like a lot of men in my family are...and having their masculinity questioned if they don't fit the standard.
22-05-2016 10:02 #144
I too have the same questions @Stretched but when it comes to terminations for medical reasons my personal opinion is until I'm in that position I'm not going to judge and even then I wouldn't. Not saying you judged but I think it's just so hard.
I have a good friend with a child with additional needs that could never have been predicted by testing. When she was pregnant wth later babies she said she wouldn't hesitate to terminate if something was wrong. For her while she loves her daughter immensely the cost to her family and her personally is so huge she couldn't go through it again.
Anyway for another thread I suppose.
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22-05-2016 10:32 #148
DH's mother never wanted girls because her relationship with her own mother was so awful. I personally think she should have sorted that out rather than pray she never had a girl of her own for fear she screwed her up as her mother did her.
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22-05-2016 10:54 #149
its odd isnt it?
My sisters had kids much earlier than me - and both had boys who I helped look after substantially.
I felt comfortable with the idea of a boy because I felt like I knew what to do with boys. I knew what they liked and how they played, what kinds of issues they would have etc.
with girls I had no clue.
BUT I was thrilled to be having a girl because deep down I really wanted a girl, and I had a fair idea this might be the only one.
22-05-2016 10:55 #150
Having said that, I love my nieces, I have great relationships with other females in my life, so I may very well be just fine at it... but for many reasons (age, finances, etc) we've decided not to have a third child, but yes, the chances of having a girl was a factor in that for me too.
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