I think it's normal. We had a great birth but he was a terrible feeder so I only BF him to 3 months. I get the same emotional pangs whenever people talk about BF. my plan was a year and I kinda mourn the loss of that experience. My girlfriend was going on about how easy BF was for her at brunch yesterday and I had to walk away.
So I guess we all have things that don't go to plan. Maybe celebrate the great things. The things that surpass your expectations. I found the love bubble of a newborn so intensely beautiful and surreal. That's my favourite bit of the whole experience. Not the feeding or the birth, just getting to know my little man and seeing us as new parents and the falling in love.
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16-05-2016 09:36 #11Senior Member
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16-05-2016 10:18 #12
Definitely debrief with your DH! Or even writing out a birth story can be really helpful to clear one's mind and stop it being a big swirling mess of emotions.
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16-05-2016 13:23 #14
DS1 was emergency cesarean, DS2 was attempted and failed VBAC that ended in caesarean. I was 10cm dilated with both but it didn't work out. Neither were "traumatic" as such, there was no urgency or rushing around or chaos or anything, but that's how they were both born.
DS1 is almost 6, DS2 is almost 4. I still struggle with talking about their births. I find it hard to articulate why I feel the way I do but I still cry about how it all panned out.
Even writing this is hard.
I've just started seeing a psychologist (again) for broader issues but we've touched on this and she plans on working on it in our sessions in much more detail.
Talk it out, whether with a professional or your partner. I've not really done that with anyone and suppressing it hasn't helped me at all.
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16-05-2016 13:48 #15
I find I'm a lot more emotional post-birth, and I cry a lot more easily. Australian story and long lost family regularly have me bawling. Singing 'your song' to DD also sets me off.
I put it down to hormones and lack of sleep
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16-05-2016 13:52 #16Senior Member
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I think it's good you brought this up. Noone ever talks about how you may feel about your birth afterwards. Like some of the stories here the birth may not have been traumatic but we are still left with feelings we can't quite understand.
Yes everyone was healthy and the birth straightforward but I think there might be some grief maybe for the birth we imagined yet did not have.
16-05-2016 13:55 #17
Whenever I hear the theme tune for game of thrones it makes me feel emotional as I was watching it when i went into labour with ds1. I think music can have a strong effect on you.
16-05-2016 13:56 #18
there's definitely a lot of strong emotions around birth that I haven't even begun to process I don't think. I just thought I'd have him and come home and that'd be it.
rather naive of me really!
16-05-2016 16:13 #19
When I play my labor tracks I still bawl my eyes out. I do think it's normal 😊
Pity I chose some tracks they play at my yoga studio. Will be interesting when I return to yoga! 😂
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