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16-05-2016 11:38 #51
How has your relationship with your DP changed since having kids?
16-05-2016 23:00 #52
I'm sorry to hear your feeling sad about going back. It's tough. I'm glad to hear your DD loves it tho. That's encouraging! My DD's a little firecracker cum jack in the box so I'm hoping she gets a lot out of it. Best of luck xx
17-05-2016 06:46 #53
Hi all- loved reading some of these posts as this topic has been on my mind for about 16 weeks now!
But my biggest concern is whether my husband will grow up a bit...
He isn't the greatest with home duties, and plays a few games online. He is excited for a baby and getting home from work to be with the child and I have no worries about him being a great dad, but I'm just worried that his immature and wasteful spending of money on little 'projects' won't stop!
He has so many little projects on the go but never seems to finish them and wastes so much money on these ! I love that he has a passion but I don't think he realises how much money, time and sometimes stress a baby can bring.
So my question is- did any of you ladies have a somewhat lazy partner who had a baby and then grew up?
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17-05-2016 07:16 #54
That hasn't changed.
But he is hands on with the kids. Well, not as newborns as he has no confidence, and not at night as I have boobs and he drives a long way to work, and not in the mornings as he's not a morning person, and not when he's gaming.....
He devotes a couple of hours each sat and Sunday to gaming, and the odd weeknight but I figure other DHs are doing the same with hobbies like sport.
I've learned to speak up somewhat and ask for me time and nap time so we kind of swap watching the kids but it is really hard to do so with a newborn.
My advice is speak up before the resentment builds otherwise you'll just look like a crazy lady. Good luck.
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17-05-2016 07:27 #55
I also find giving your dh a "choice" will help it sound less like nagging too. Such as "do you want to do the dishes whilst I bath bubs or you do want to bath bubs whilst I was the dishes?"
17-05-2016 07:42 #56
17-05-2016 07:45 #57
Little Miss Sunshine. This works much better. I need to directly tell my DH to do things even if to me it seems like an obvious thing to do.
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17-05-2016 08:38 #58
It took me going back to work for him to pull his socks up. Because we worked opp shifts he had to pull his weight.
And I lost it.
I explained or yelled that when he returned from work I'd have done dishes/washing/housework etc. Why couldn't he? Was he useless?
He has gone from a gaming gym junkie to zero games, gym at work only and sport on Saturday.
He does bed/bath solo for all three of home (I feed baby then palm off).
He cooks on days off and will pop meals on slow cooker if needed.
He is responsible for bathrooms, changing sheets, vacuuming and grocery shopping.
Of course if he is around. Which is rarely.
17-05-2016 09:05 #59
18-05-2016 06:40 #60
Thanks everyone for their responses. Xx
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