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    We had a Childcare worker who was the director of our centre kiss my daughter on the lips! I thought it was really bizarre, glad to see I'm not the only one who thinks that's not on.

    As for the rest of it, I'd be uncomfortable with the offers for free baby sitting, her saying she doesn't like her job to you, the mummy's boy thing I think a lot of people make unwanted remarks like that to young children thinking it will stop them from the behaviour that they are exhibiting at the time. I'm not sure what standard procedures are in terms of them being able to fire someone. Sorry I'm probably not much help but you drew me in with the kissing on the lips thing because we have experienced that before.

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    Hell no what a effin creep.

    I would move centres 😳😳 why on earth is she commenting on your PND? Etc. did u discuss it with her.

    I would seriously go further with this...

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    Honestly? Aside from kissing your child on the lips, none of the rest would bother me. Even with that I would have just said something like 'we try not to encourage lip kissing with people outside of the family' and left it at that.

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    I would only really have a problem with the lip kiss thing everything else is sort of a non issue for me as i have found that lots of daycare workers are very friendly and helpful and lots of them do babysit kids they look after all day every day.

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    She clearly has an issue with boundaries, but I think their response is adequate. I certainly don't believe this warrants being sacked. The kissing would be about concerns over cold sores and sickness rather than believing it was creepy. The other stuff is probably over the line but not terrible.

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    One of our daycare workers sometimes kisses my two on the lips. She is Eastern European and a bit older and eccentric and a bit OTT in other ways, but she is genuine and good hearted and really cares about the kids. I don't love the lip kissing but I know it would crush her if I rebuked her so I let it go.

    Honestly, it sounds like this person was trying to be friendly/ helpful but has poor social skills or awareness of boundaries. The making a rude comment behind your back is disappointing and immature, but they can't fire someone on the basis of a single unverified complaint, even if you were alleging serious abuse I'd assume they would need more evidence.

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    I'm confused. Your post says she pointed to her lips. You then allude to the fact she kisses your child on the lips. Did you actually see the kids on the lips?

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    I have to say, reading your post, I could totally imagine my DS's educators (who I love) doing all of those things, aside from asking for a kiss on the lips. The kiss on the lips thing I would not be cool with, for the reasons PPs have said.

    If my DS's educators had done any or all of those things (aside from the kiss thing), I wouldn't be worried at all, and would see it as friendly chat, and trying to be helpful, etc. I guess it must come down to tone, or 'vibe' though?

    Just wondering why you called senior management yourself, if it was in the hands of the centre director at the time?

    I think dismissal in this case would be pretty harsh. Some feedback and performance management maybe, but not dismissal. Just my two cents worth.

    ETA: I have often wondered if I could ask educators to babysit for us, but I wasn't sure if I could or should, or if it was a 'done thing', or if there were daycare policies against it, etc. I'd be pleased to get an offer from an educator for paid babysitting if required
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