Sounds ungrateful I know lol, but let me explain...
I had a lovely mother's day, got some nice cutesy little gifts off the kids, they made me brekky in bed etc.
Just for context- we are a very low income household, and lately has been very tough as I haven't been getting many shifts at work.
So, my 8yo has been counting down to mother's day for a few weeks. He has been so excited and saying he knows what he's getting me. He was asking that I make sure I give him his wallet (it's hidden as he can be quite frivolous with his money lol). I was starting to have some suspicions of what his 'present' was, and sure enough, I open my wallet and he's emptied his into mine. $23.95.
He often offers to give me money. I thank him for the offer but have explained the costs of things and how although it's a beautiful gesture, it's not exactly going to do much. eg he will offer $20 to pay for the weeks groceries lol. So I have explained that things actually cost a lot. He was really shocked at how much things cost, and I thought that now that he knew, he would stop offering. And I explain that it's his money and how I'd love for him to buy himself something with his money.
But now he's gone and done this!
Any attempts thus far to return the money has made him upset. He really wants me to have it. :/
I feel so bad. I wish my kids didn't have to worry about money.
So WWYD with the money?
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09-05-2016 14:49 #1Senior Member
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WWYD- unwanted mother's day gift
09-05-2016 14:52 #2
Buy something for the whole family. Maybe do something you don't do normally (like takeaway) and let everyone know it's from his Mother's Day present. Or just take the kids to the local shop / deli for some treats after school. Hire some DVDs for a cold Saturday afternoon and make it into a movie afternoon.
He sounds like a gorgeous boy.
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09-05-2016 14:54 #3
Accept it and keep it for him. Put it aside for him for a rainy day. He wants to help you. No, kids shouldn't feel pressured to help, but bless him, you have a kind hearted little man there. He will feel happy knowing you have the money. Even if you don't spend it. He doesn't need to know that.
09-05-2016 14:54 #4
I agree with the above
How sweet is he! You've raised such a gorgeous boy
09-05-2016 14:55 #5
My 6yo offered me his $9 the other day to help pay for something I said we couldn't afford (camper trailer for holidays).
I just explain that what would make he happiest is to see him spend his money on something special for him. And if he wants to share it, he should share with his siblings.
09-05-2016 14:57 #6
WWYD- unwanted mother's day gift
What a very sweet boy you have! Could you maybe take him to the movies and use that money to go towards tickets or food? If you really couldn't give it back to him because of how upset it made him, you should try and use it to do something nice with just him and you, maybe his favourite takeaway? Or could you open a bank account for him and put that money into it (along with other money he gets)?
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09-05-2016 15:01 #7Senior Member
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Keep it, buy a photo frame and put a lovely photo of the two of you in it.
You should be very proud. What a lovely young man you have.
09-05-2016 15:05 #8
I think you should take his money, as adults we see his gesture as unnecessary and I completely understand your view however he's obviously thought it through and this is what he wants to try and deflect his gift would probably upset him and probably hurt his pride.
Personally I would spend his $20 on something the whole family can enjoy (him too) and make sure to praise him for it... preferably in front of the family so it's a boost to his pride.
There's nothing wrong with raising kids who are aware of the family financial situation and try to help and make good financial decisions in the future, I'd be proud!
09-05-2016 15:55 #9
Oh bless him, what a beautiful boy you have there.
Maybe be you could put it aside and slowly add to it to put towards a special day out for the family?
09-05-2016 18:03 #10
My ds asked whats for dinner the other day and I said I didn't know and wasn't feeling well, he says can we have takeaway and I said I can't afford it, so he brings his tin full of silver change and announced he is buying dinner and we can use his money.. lol not quite enough there buddy, fish and chips isn't really cheap anymore either!
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