So another drama with dd.
Her school has changed sports uniform this year. I bought her the new jacket and tops but have decided not to buy the new track pants as the old ones still fit. She had a huge tantrum over this last week.
Anyway this morning she puts on her pants and shows me these marks on them. Looks like she drew on them with texta.
These pants were washed and hanged up in her wardrobe since last year. I didn't outright accuse her but am suspicious she had drawn on them deliberately so I would buy her new ones.
I have told her to wear the other pair and I will wash the marked ones. Hopefully it's not a permanent marker.
Anyway I am feeling at a loss of what to do. I don't want to accuse her if she didn't do it but I know if I ask her she will deny it. I really think she did it though.
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09-05-2016 06:47 #11
09-05-2016 17:37 #12
I would make her wear the ones with texta on them
You would have noticed if they had marks all over them when you washed them last year ... I would definitely have my suspicions
14-05-2016 22:05 #13Senior Member
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Punish her enough? Seriously? She made a mistake. She probably already feels bad. Let it go. She's 6. She didn't actuslly steal it as her friend hadn't got it yet. Kids lie and they make mistakes, it's part of learning and growing up.
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14-05-2016 22:38 #14
I must be a big softie, because I think your DD is cheekily gorgeous and actually pretty clever. Yes, her actions shouldn't go unnoticed and she's done the wrong thing, but it'd be something that I could see myself having a giggle over with my DH (without her seeing of course)...I'd definitely not encourage the behaviour and would not have let her keep the diary and I'd be calling her out on the texta marks on her trackies. But, it wouldn't be something that I'd be stewing over. She's 6. It's normal. Not morally right and it's our duty to instill these values in our children, but I don't think she's a bad kid in the slightest. Just a little rascal 😃
15-05-2016 05:54 #15
And with the tracksuit eventually she admitted that she drew on it.
I was about to buy her new ones anyway but just didn't like her trying to trick me and lie about it. I worry that she will be spoilt and not learn the meaning of no if I give in to all her demands. Long story short I did buy it but means she has given up her school snack order from the canteen for the term.
15-05-2016 05:57 #16
15-05-2016 06:06 #17
In our family we don't get punished if we tell the truth when questioned. It works really well for us 😀
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15-05-2016 06:10 #18
15-05-2016 06:37 #19
Dd lying - wwyd
Agree with others it's normal, I did the same at her age.
My cousin (6) tried to take money out of my wallet recently. When her mum was talking to her about it it came out that she was upset she had spent the money she saved up on something she wanted, and wanted more money.
It takes them a little while to really work out the concept of earning something, or entitlement. I clearly remember being so jealous of some of the Pressies we gave my friends!
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15-05-2016 07:33 #20Senior Member
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It may be a phase but that doesn't mean there shouldn't be consequences for it. If my daughter did that she would be in a lot of trouble. For starters I wouldn't have threatened that she wouldn't go to the birthday party.. she actually wouldn't have gone to the birthday party. I still would've given the birthday child the clothes but that's it.
Secondly I would be taking one of my DD's recent birthday/Christmas presents off her and taking it to the salvos. (Probably not a big one just one of the minor ones).
I know that sounds harsh but to me what your DD did was actually pretty bad. I do agree that's it's pretty normal at that age to do what she did, I just think there needs to be consquences so she doesn't do it again. I would also tell my DD that I can no longer trust her and wouldn't allow her to do jobs that involve trust until she earned my trust back.
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