I have never had that strong, overwhelming urge to be a mother. I knew it was something I wanted to do though. My DH and I were solid and had been together a long time, so it just felt like it was the natural next step to start a family.
I am grateful that I was able to choose to have a child when I was ready. That wasn't until I turned 30.
I stopped at one child for a myriad of reasons, but deep down I really just don't have that strong urge to have another baby. I would actually seriously consider adopting a daughter if it wasn't such a difficult process. It's mostly pregnancy that I just don't want to chance again.
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02-05-2016 10:29 #31
02-05-2016 13:17 #32
For me I always just thought I would have kids. "It's what you do" all part of being an adult.
I always thought I would love being a mum and a SAHM but I surprisingly dont enjoy it.
After dd was born dh was keen to have another but I just wanted the one then when she was 2 I wanted to give her a sibling not so much because I wanted another child, then I had a mc and told I would probably never naturally concieve again.
Being told no more kids made me want another one.
We now have 2 beautiful kids. Part of me would like a third but I can not go through the toddler stage again. I want to start enjoying time with my family.
02-05-2016 13:36 #33
I always wanted to have kids. Even as a child, it was the only thing that I consistently knew I wanted to do as an adult. I loved being around young children, and somewhere in my teenage naivety I also looked at parenting as something that I could be really good at compared to other people
I spent the ages of about 12-21 really longing to have a baby. We then had out first when I was 22, our second when I was 25 and now we're done.
02-05-2016 13:44 #34
Why did you want to become a mother/parent
I always wanted to be a mum. Instinct I guess. But I wasn't driven about it when I was young. DH and I met when we were 21 and were married at 23. DH was keen for kids straight away but I wasn't. We worked, bought a house, travelled, wasted money on nice dinners and alcohol with friends etc etc. We have no regrets about any of it. When I was about 27 the strong urge kicked in and after that a baby was all I could think about. I had DS 2 days before my 29th birthday and DD when I was 31.
My kids are 9 and nearly 7 now. I love the age they are at. Sometimes I wish we'd had a third but my physical and mental health just wasn't up for it at the time. We are blessed.
Eta: I also wanted to make humans with DH. Because he's the best human I know.
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02-05-2016 14:39 #35
I didn't care for children until I was about 25 and then it was all just totally biological drive. Baby crazy! And it hasn't stopped since.
02-05-2016 15:07 #36
I've always wanted to have a big house with my beautiful husband and has his beautiful children haha. It's always been my dream. I've kept a baby names list since I was about 15yo. I especially wanted to have kids young: that was very important to me. I often thought about how I would bring up my children, what sorts of things I would do to turn them into "good" people etc.
I met DH at 17 and very quickly I knew he was the one. We were living together by 18, joint finances, all that. Married at 22, then about 6 months after wedding he was ready for kids. That was when we found our fertility issues. I struggled a lot with that: feeling my clock ticking even though I'm still so young. I was so adamant I wanted to have my first by 25 and be done by 30. Well we conceived by 25 if that counts. I'm 26 now and he will be here in a few months.
02-05-2016 15:27 #37
I want to add to mine and say that another reason that I had kids, and I think it's a valid one, is that I want to have family of my own around when I'm an old lady. I would love it if my kids have their own so that I can have grandkids to love. That's really important to me.
02-05-2016 15:51 #38
02-05-2016 15:58 #39
Never. I still don't... but I do love my chubba.
02-05-2016 16:01 #40
I'm an only child, and I'm estranged from my own family so I just imagine that my parents have very lonely Christmases. (They can't hold onto friends either).
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