We signed papers saying if we were to seperate what do we want done with the eggs . If one of us passed away what do we want done with them etc .
The clinic should be able to look up your paperwork and tell you what you opted for at the time. I had to circle what we wanted.. Good luck I hope he happily agrees you can use your donated eggs xx
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17-04-2016 20:22 #11Senior Member
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17-04-2016 20:34 #12
Its very possible that she would do that...I wouldn't put it past her, she took my hubby. Though yes, he was a grown man and knew what he was doing and takes half the blame as well...I believe (without going into huge detail) she was jealous of my life.
THOUGH.....this is hunch only...I do not think they are together anymore.
But I have to assume they are as I have no proof. And assuming they are, I believe she will have a say and "stop" him from saying yes.
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17-04-2016 20:41 #14Senior Member
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Concept in Perth when I did that..
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02-05-2016 21:36 #15
Hiya. This happened to me - after my ex and I split, I spent five years hoping to meet mr right before asking to use our three embies.
They were so loved and wanted and we'd been through so much to get them
My clinic said regardless of past consents, current trumps past, so unless they got a current consent from my ex to donate them to me (ie be a donor and not on birth certificate) I couldn't use them. '
I couldn't get this from him and so they'll be destroyed, it gave me the push I needed to start a donor process and do this on my own. This was MIVF. It is heart wrenching to have to destory embies you love and want, and it feels like all the power is his.
I feel for you, feel free to pm me xx
07-05-2016 08:28 #16
Hi Jelly...thanks SO much for the reply...sorry I am late reading and replying back. I will send you a PM right after this. As awful as this sounds, I am glad someone has been there (only for the advice, not for anything else)
I am sorry you had to go through this!
07-05-2016 08:59 #17Senior Member
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My gf is an embryologist and these cases come up a lot. She was recently in court with this exact scenario. Unfortunately you need his consent. There is just no way around it. I hope he has it in his heart to donate them to you. Wishing you all the luck 😘
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24-05-2016 21:06 #18
Thanks WinterJade :-)
I feel like I posted this thread and then disappeared...life got hectic with other things. Just a really quick update. Basiclly we got a bill for the embryo storage so I really had no choice but to bring this up with him. I said that we had been through so much to get them and that is was my only chance for more children and that I really didnt want them destroyed (he knows my friend and donors feelings on not donating them). He said he agreed with me ...my head is now spinning. He has agreed to pay half the storage fee and we are going to discuss what to do with them a bit later on.
Thank you everyone for your advice and help! I really hope no one else finds themselves in this situation. IVF is hard enough without this extra complication.
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