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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Was the $ earmarked for something? If not then it's hardly an accurate description to label it family money (rather emotive actually). If someone busts a gut working 2 jobs, one of which is fifo IMO they deserve a bit if spending money for themself.
    Come on, surely there's a line to be crossed somewhere. If OP is saying it's family money then that would surely be based on the situation in her relationship. It's not emotive.

    I agree with you that people deserve spending money. That doesn't mean that what they choose to spend it on will never cause conflict.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Was the $ earmarked for something? If not then it's hardly an accurate description to label it family money (rather emotive actually). If someone busts a gut working 2 jobs, one of which is fifo IMO they deserve a bit if spending money for themself.
    Having twins, raising them on your own, having a husband that isn't present (emotionally, physically, sexually), that doesn't get it, that's leading a whole different life to yours, that isn't on your team... I'd equate that to more than just busting a gut. What does that deserve?

    OP, you have every right to your emotions, it seems like a very difficult situation to be in. I hope you can find the love and support you deserve.

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    My partner watches porn and reads pornographic comic books. I personally don't mind. He watches it and may be aroused, but he isn't emotionally attached to the actresses like he is to me. I read the comics sometimes too and the storyline is actually pretty good, and I've always told him I don't mind if he looks at other women whether it's in person or online etc as long as he doesn't think about sleeping with them because if that happens then there's serious problems in our relationship.

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    Hang on your p said he doesn't mind what you do with other people as long as he doesn't find out??? That is a screaming red flag to me I'm sorry but it's almost like he's trying to make it okay for him to cheat. With that comment, the messages and photos with other women and lack of sex I'd be very concerned. Sorry I don't make you feel better but the porn is the last thing id be worried about
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    The money spent isn't really the problem. He gets all his pay from his job into his own account & he pays all the bills & anything left over is his, I have know idea how much this is. After bills probably not much. The amount of a p0rn subscription isn't so much the amount of money it's just the thought of it being spent on that IYKWIM. I don't even know what one gets for subscribing? & why would you when there's enough free to watch anyway. So don't worry I don't control his money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora21 View Post
    Hang on your p said he doesn't mind what you do with other people as long as he doesn't find out??? That is a screaming red flag to me I'm sorry but it's almost like he's trying to make it okay for him to cheat. With that comment, the messages and photos with other women and lack of sex I'd be very concerned. Sorry I don't make you feel better but the porn is the last thing id be worried about
    Hugs to you xx
    Yes these are the sort of things that have turned me into a suspicious snoop.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    Come on, surely there's a line to be crossed somewhere. If OP is saying it's family money then that would surely be based on the situation in her relationship. It's not emotive.

    I agree with you that people deserve spending money. That doesn't mean that what they choose to spend it on will never cause conflict.
    100% agree.

    Working FIFO doesn't give him the right to spend THEIR money on porn. Would you apply the same logic to a sex worker?? It's legal, and I'm sure a much better release for this "poor" man.

    Gimme a break.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashar View Post
    The money spent isn't really the problem. He gets all his pay from his job into his own account & he pays all the bills & anything left over is his, I have know idea how much this is. After bills probably not much. The amount of a p0rn subscription isn't so much the amount of money it's just the thought of it being spent on that IYKWIM. I don't even know what one gets for subscribing? & why would you when there's enough free to watch anyway. So don't worry I don't control his money.
    Is his income the only income you have as a family? And you don't have visibility of that?

    If you are a family and it is the only income you have you need visibility. You also need visibility of the family expenses (rent, utilities, insurance, super etc).

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Is his income the only income you have as a family? And you don't have visibility of that?

    If you are a family and it is the only income you have you need visibility. You also need visibility of the family expenses (rent, utilities, insurance, super etc).
    Yes his money is the only income. I don't get anything from Centrelink because of his earnings. He gives me the money from his gigs. I don't actually know the exact amount he gets paid but have access to bills to see what getting paid out. I haven't put anything into my super since I left work 31/2 years ago & not really sure what his is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashar View Post
    Yes his money is the only income. I don't get anything from Centrelink because of his earnings. He gives me the money from his gigs. I don't actually know the exact amount he gets paid but have access to bills to see what getting paid out. I haven't put anything into my super since I left work 31/2 years ago & not really sure what his is.
    Is this because you don't want to know/don't care or because he has restricted your access to this information?

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