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    Unfortunately I think there may be people following his advice if he posts this stuff on his website, and many people love his show and he's well respected (justified or not).
    I think it's irresponsible to put such a flawed list on his site implying smacking is ok, force feeding is ok, along with many other things which he (or his writers) have failed to cover. And yet it's neglectful to go leave the kids for a moment to pay for fuel Priorities.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    He has a PhD in psychology. No he's not a psychologist but I believe he used to be. Being on tv must pay more ������
    Ah, I stand corrected. He was a doctor with a PhD in psychology. He was a psychologist, but can no longer practice it.

    What he does, though, is not psychology.

    This may or may not be true:

    His statement was: "I retired my license ... I don't need a license ... I’ve chosen instead to pursue another course and use of my education." It's true that for what he does on TV, he doesn't need to actually be a psychologist. But there is more to the story about his having "retired" his license. He was in fact disciplined by the Texas Board of Psychology in 1989, and it appears that he may have "retired" his license, rather than responding to their disciplinary requirements. We don't know for sure, but it may have been a little bit different than an ordinary retirement.
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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    @Ahalfdozen I'm so very sorry you had to go through that. My mother had different behaviours but was and still is a narcissist too.

    I have never sent my kids to bed without dinner, but nor do I make another dinner! If they won't eat after being asked to try a few bites, then they leave the table. They have access to fruit, yoghurt, a sanger but that's it.

    We have a saying in our house - don't make mealtime a battleground.
    If our kids won't try it and go to bed without tea if they wake up later they get bread with nothing on it. If they try it and genuinely don't like it (doesn't happen often, mostly they decide they like it) then we offer nice alternatives - sanger, fruit, yoghurt.

    If they aren't hungry then as long as they behave nicely about it and sit at the table while everyone eats then we don't fuss.

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    Well I'm sorry but I'm a neglectful parent. I put food on the table and if my children choose not to eat it because it's not chicken nuggets and chips or something they're used to having then they get nothing else and will go to bed without dinner or whatever other meal it is that's been put on the table. My second son went to bed a few times with the only meal he'd eaten being breakfast.

    I now have 3 kids who will eat ANYTHING and everything. I can go to a restaurant and there doesn't have to be a kids menu. I don't have to hide vegetables. They get yoghurt for desert (and not kids specialised yoghurt either).

    If that makes me a neglectful parent then so be it

    I also leave my kids in the car to go and get fuel. If that makes me an abusive parent so be it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamtam View Post
    But this is ridiculous. According to this I'm abusive.
    I don't leave DD in the car. ..but I have smacked her once. Was a knee-jerk reaction.
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    Did you read the article? The way I interpreted is that dr Phil is not condoning spanking (I've heard him speak separatley on this topic so maybe that's easier for me to read I to). He's not necessarily saying all spanning is abuse either. He's merely endorsing some national kids help line guidelines that allude to if you leave a mark when spanking a kid then you've totally lost all credibility for arguing that your actions weren't abusive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Well I'm sorry but I'm a neglectful parent. I put food on the table and if my children choose not to eat it because it's not chicken nuggets and chips or something they're used to having then they get nothing else and will go to bed without dinner or whatever other meal it is that's been put on the table. My second son went to bed a few times with the only meal he'd eaten being breakfast.

    I now have 3 kids who will eat ANYTHING and everything. I can go to a restaurant and there doesn't have to be a kids menu. I don't have to hide vegetables. They get yoghurt for desert (and not kids specialised yoghurt either).

    If that makes me a neglectful parent then so be it

    I also leave my kids in the car to go and get fuel. If that makes me an abusive parent so be it.
    Did you read the article? It's not saying parents who's kids go to bed without dinner are being abused. It's saying it's not in the kids best interests to go to bed without dinner. Which I think is true. I will add though (what the article doesn't specify) is in the world of toddlers and tantrums and illness it's not always avoidable. The article does state that if a child is not eating enough to sustain their development then it is neglect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Well I'm sorry but I'm a neglectful parent. I put food on the table and if my children choose not to eat it because it's not chicken nuggets and chips or something they're used to having then they get nothing else and will go to bed without dinner or whatever other meal it is that's been put on the table. My second son went to bed a few times with the only meal he'd eaten being breakfast.

    I now have 3 kids who will eat ANYTHING and everything. I can go to a restaurant and there doesn't have to be a kids menu. I don't have to hide vegetables. They get yoghurt for desert (and not kids specialised yoghurt either).

    If that makes me a neglectful parent then so be it

    I also leave my kids in the car to go and get fuel. If that makes me an abusive parent so be it.
    Me too.

    But I don't have a high opinion of Dr Phil. Think he is a goof.

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    I took the 'sending to bed without dinner' part as not offering dinner. My daughter often goes to bed without eating dinner (at least once a week), but she is always offered dinner.

    I agree that the list is shonky. It is so open to interpretation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    Me too.

    But I don't have a high opinion of Dr Phil. Think he is a goof.
    Yes, I agree. I can't believe people take him seriously.

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    My toddler has been send to bed with no dinner numerous time. He was offered food though just not the one he wanted!


 

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