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    Default Spin off of a spin off: Go with the flow

    I was about to derail a thread I don't belong in so thought I'd start a new one.

    How do you define being a "go with the flow" person?

    Can you go with the flow in some areas of life but not others?

    Are you go with the flow? Why/why not?

    Can you go with the flow but also feel in control? Set goals? Etc.

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    Go with the flow : happy to fit in and conform with what others are doing without making unnecessary waves.

    Can you go with flow in smne areas but not others ... Yes!

    I am a go with the flow person. I see no need to make unnecessary waves nor make issues that dont need to be made.

    Yes you can go with the flow and then step in and take the lead or direct things. So long as you dont complety change what others wete trying to do it is likely that ithers will be hapoy to look to some leadership or a change of leadership

    Thats my opinion

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    Answering those questions is hard to put into words. But I'll give it a go.

    GWTF is not a free-for-all. It's not unorganised chaos. It just means that you don't plan everything down to the dot. You pick your battles.

    I am actually a terrible perfectionist. Yet in the other thread I did identify as a GWTF person. So yes, I am both. I can't even put a finger on what 'areas' I am and I'm not.

    Yes I do feel in control, most definitely. I just don't let my life control me.

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    Not go with the flow here. I have to be at times but it isn't my natural way. I guess having 4 kids has made me more easy going but it's definitely not my happy place.

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    I like to be organised, but hate rigid structure and really can't stand doing the same thing every day (which is why I actually love being a shift worker and absolutely detest the 9-5 Mon to Fri gig, it's too repititive and I get bored very easily). Sometimes I wonder if I have ADHD, because nothing holds my attention for long, I actually do my best when I have interruptions and my mind gets taken to something else for a while, before going back to finish my original task.
    If I was not a go with the flow person I would be a constant ball of stress. Both DH and I work odd hours, that changes our course of the day almost every day. I've had people tell me they would hate the non structure, but we think it makes life interesting. Our kids are really well adapted to this lifestyle, too...because it's been this way since they were babies. I also think it helps with organisation...we never know what the next week might bring so we plan for that, as funny as that sounds.
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    Gwtf as a person would be someone who doesn't need to control every aspect of their life, adaptable to different outcomes, doesn't have set plans/ideas though may have flexible plans/views.

    Yes, you can gwtf in one area but not another. I'm quite gwtf where parenting is concerned but not at all in other aspects of my life. Funny thing is, dh is almost the opposite! Usually always gwtf but gets quite strung up with parenting sometimes!

    I think you can gwtf but remain in control. In someways it's about letting go of the details or perfectionism and being adaptable/flexible in your plans. I think goals are important no matter what kind of person you are.
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    I am in the middle. I like knowing what I am doing in advance and plan things weeks and months ahead but at the same time, I am flexible and easy going if something needs to change or doesn't go to plan.

    When it comes to my babies'/kids' sleep I am not as flexible. When they were on 2 sleeps, I always made sure they had one sleep at home and when they were on one sleep I would make sure I was home 99% of the time. It was also very rare for my kids to be still up at 8pm. We don't have any family help and that was our down time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I am in the middle. I like knowing what I am doing in advance and plan things weeks and months ahead but at the same time, I am flexible and easy going if something needs to change or doesn't go to plan.

    When it comes to my babies'/kids' sleep I am not as flexible. When they were on 2 sleeps, I always made sure they had one sleep at home and when they were on one sleep I would make sure I was home 99% of the time. It was also very rare for my kids to be still up at 8pm. We don't have any family help and that was our down time.
    This is me, right down to the sleep.

    I find it works well for me to have structure/organisation, but I've learned to be more adaptive to change over the years.

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    I am a bit of both. I don't have 'rigid' structure, & by the third baby, we are often out and about & she doesnt get any sleeps at home for days at a time. But I do prefer a 7pn bedtime for all the kids at least 95% of the time (special occasions excepted - but would prefer not to have a late bedtime more than once a week). I do find that my kids thrive on routine, & if they have some structure in their lives- regular mealtimes, regular sleeps & enough stimulation AND down time - they are generally happier and sleep better. Meltdowns and tanties happen when they are hungry and tired! And night sleeps suffer for it, too. I don't stress about day sleeps, but then again, I do find a good day time routine promotes good night sleep. So I guess both, in different ways.

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    I'm GWTF when it comes to parenting, work, socialising and relationship related matters.

    I'm not GWTF when it comes to home organisation. Things have a home and I go crazy when someone puts something in the wrong place.

    I think GWTF is about adapting to and accepting change. I still have plans and ideas but don't get hung up or stressed if they need to change for whatever reason. I pick my battles because I find a lot of things just aren't worth getting upset over.

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