hi everyone. We are ok. I have not yet forgiven him for what he has done, but we are going to work it out. I know what he did was cheating and a lot of people won't forgive another for that but i feel 15 years is too long of a time to through away on a silly mistake.
Thanks everyone for you support. I hope i am not back here later writing that ti should have walked!
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08-04-2016 16:00 #11
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08-04-2016 16:18 #12
Hey op. I just wanted to say that I'm glad you are talking and wanted to remind you that it is your marriage, not society's. Separate or stay together, but do what is right for you and your kids.
I'm not sure if I missed this being said, but please be sure that he is screened for STDs prior to any intimacy with him.
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08-04-2016 16:32 #13
Good advice SPG, std check is super important and very true that it is your decision and nobody else's.
08-04-2016 17:27 #14
Fwiw dp and I have been through infidelity and survived. The work involved from both of us was so very hard but it forces honesty, openness and transparency within a relationship.
Don't feel forced into ending things with him. Don't feel forced to stay with him. Do what you feel is the right thing for you. Not what's right for the family. Not what's right for the kids, because they are able to adapt. Do what's right for you.
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08-04-2016 17:40 #15
I think physical infidelity and emotional infidelity are two different things, with physical being much more forgivable. I think since he told you about this he either is remorseful and wants your forgiveness to build a future again, or he's telling you because he wants you to leave him.
Look after your kids, and yourself first!
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11-04-2016 13:17 #16
So it has been a few days since hubby's return and i will be honest and say things are a little tough for me atleast. I am beginning to doubt my decision to stay and to try and work things out.
I feel a little uncomfortable when he cuddles me at night and just cant stop the whole ordeal from playing out in my mind. I am determined to give it a good shot but i am not prepared to exhust myself to do it.
11-04-2016 13:52 #17
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11-04-2016 14:12 #18
I think you'll find after something like that the feelings of betrayal and anger will take quite a while to lessen. Would your DH be willing to get some couples counselling? It might help you to get your feelings out, work through the issues and then enable you to decide what's best for you?
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