Hi all! Long time, no speak! I’ve been having a bit of a break from the social medias, but have come across a quandary and I’m interested to know what others would do?
So, DH & I are selling our house and will be renting for a few years after we sell to save for our dream home. We currently live in “Town A” as that is where DH’s work is situated. I don’t really enjoy living here all that much. It’s hot, there are a lot of bogans (I know, I’m such a snob!), it takes me an hour to commute to work which I hate and have been doing for about 5 years, and it’s about an hour away from my family who are our biggest support network.
DH & I have been having a lot of trouble deciding where to move to. All of the suburbs surrounding us have either a bad reputation, or you cannot find a rental that will allow dogs. We have 2 large dogs.
Last night he mentioned off hand that he’d had a look at listings for “Town Z”. Town Z is about a 50 minute commute away from his work, but it’s all in the opposite direction to peak traffic, so it’s not a hard commute. Town Z also happens to be only 20 minutes away from my family. There are quite a few pet friendly rentals, although it is about $100 more per week than we wanted to pay, but still do-able. It would just mean I’d have to go back to work part-time after 1 year maternity leave. I’ll be going on mat leave in August.
To sum up:
Town A –
- I hate living here - hot, suburban, not enough green spaces
- No support
- Bogans/noisy neighbours/crime
- Schools in area are all below national standards
- Cheap rent
- We could achieve savings goals/buying dream home faster
- I could take 2 years off work/mat leave to finish my studies and get into new career faster
- 10 min commute for DH (=more time with kids, easier drive)
Town Z –
- 50 min commute for DH (= less time with kids, harder drive)
- More expensive, take a little longer to achieve study goals
- I would have to go back to work part time after 1 year.
- Closer to my family = more support and socialising
- Awesome semi-rural neighbourhood with great daycare and schools, family friendly, parks, and only 10 mins drive to bay beach
- Cooler climate
DH said if I want to move there we can, but I feel selfish that he would have to drive so much further and miss out on about an hour or so extra time with the kids. Although as he pointed out, I’m the one that’s going to be home the majority of the time so I need to be happy and comfortable where we are living…and I really don’t Town A. It's not the worst, but far from ideal.
So, WWYD in my situation? Can you think of any other pros or cons?
Please help me make up my mind!!
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04-04-2016 11:28 #1
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04-04-2016 11:32 #2
Town Z. No question at all.
I commute 40 minutes to work and it's really not that long. I remind myself when I lived in Melbourne a bad day could mean 30 minutes to get to the library!
The pros are better and I'd do it in a heart beat. Even going back to work will be ok with more family support
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04-04-2016 12:08 #3
The support from my family really is a huge help to us. My mum looks after DS one day a week and does a 2 hour roubd trip for that. She said she'd like to help us more when the new baby arrives, but it's just hard when she's si far away. So being closer would be a big plus...
04-04-2016 12:11 #4Senior Member
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If those are the options, Town Z looks like a no brainer to me. Lock it in before your DH changes his mind!
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04-04-2016 14:06 #7
Thanks for the input everyone
I guess I struggle with feeling guilty that DH would be worse off for the move... I'd feel kind of selfish. He says he doesn't really mind and just wants me to be happy....and that just makes me feel more selfish and guilty, haha!
I'll have another talk to him about it tonight
04-04-2016 14:12 #8
Could you buy eventually in town Z? For me that would also be an important consideration.
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04-04-2016 14:18 #10
Definitely Town Z! Schooling, family, nicer neighbourhood are more important than how close you live to work (in my opinion). You have also being doing an hour commute for work so don't feel selfish! If DH doesn't mind, neither should you.
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