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    Default How did you tell Friends and Family you wouldn't be having children?

    I'm coming to the point that I think it's time to stop trying, I might have one more cycle left in my but I'm just not sure.
    I know I'm strong enough to go down the donation path & adoption just seems like a long long hard road.

    So my question is, how did you explain to friends and family that you have stopped TTC?

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    No advice, just to say I'm so so sorry this is what you are facing.

    Big hugs X

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    Sorry to hear your journey hasn't been successful... Though there is still one more chance possibly... I would be saying that we can't have children medically and done everything financially and emotionally to have children but it just hasn't worked out for us... People need to know your story and be there for you... Sending you hugs xx

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    I was thinking about sending an email to all the family that know we've been doing IVF and letting them know that we won't be trying anymore, but maybe that's just too much?

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    if it we're ''me'' in your shoes, i wouldn't make an announcement.. whoever asks - i'd say so but i wouldn't go out of my way to say so.. if that makes sense.

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    I didn't make an announcement, I told people individually. Originally I hadn't really wanted anyone to know we were doing ivf but stuff happened & by the time we called it quits quite a few friends & family were aware. I'm quite private but I was honest & said I just couldn't face another cycle & that adoption wasn't an option for us. Everyone's situation is different but I would say that for me it wasn't the end of it because I had a couple of people who didn't willingly accept our decision & still 'push' for us to start ttc again. I guess my advice would be to think about what would be the easiest way for you to do it. I spent a lot of time worrying about what everyone would think & got very stressed out about it & at the end of the day the worrying & stressing were just a waste of time & energy! I'm sorry to hear you're in this position as I know it is hard. Good luck x

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    I wouldn't announce it at all. If your families like mine you tell one and then everyone knows..

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    If it was me I wouldn't tell my family and if I did it wouldn't be via email. That's me though - we're not really close and I have no interest in sharing personal information with them. I don't trust my mother not to blab.
    What's your relationship with your family like? Have you shared your ttc struggles with then thus far? Are hey supportive?

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    Sorry to hear this But I think you've tried so hard! Your family and friends, they will understand for you. The most important thing is you're healthy and happy.
    It would be great if you can give a birth to your own baby, but the fact is out there, there are so many orphan children need loves and care.
    Be strong my lady!

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    [QUOTE=Jull;8631180]Sorry to hear this But I think you've tried so hard! Your family and friends, they will understand for you. The most important thing is you're healthy and happy.
    It would be great if you can give a birth to your own baby, but the fact is out there, there are so many orphan children need loves and care.

    Jull in Australia it is an extremely difficult process to adopt even if they are orphaned.


    hugs go out to Bettie. it would depend on how close you were with your familiy and friends. Did they know you were doing IVF in the first place? Did they know how hard it has been and that you just cannot go again.

    Im not close with my family and my mother was unsupportive during my first IUI. So I cut her off. She was unsupportive when I rang to say I was pregnant after IVF so I cut her out of my life. And that has been a good thing.

    It would be depending on how close you are. And whether you think its any of their business. Or are you looking to off load and share.


 

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