I personally will not be comfortable returning to FT work until my kids are all school age. I think when my youngest hits preschool,I will return PT, & probably stay PT for her 1st year of school, & then increase my hours thereafter. I know it probably seems like a long time for some -for me,it's a combinatiom of not wanting my children in daycare, & I have a child with an illneas that requires care and hospitalisations from time to time,which makes it hard for me to be a reliable worker at this point. I just have to put her health needs first, there's no other way around it. I did start to feel like I was pining for work, then I increased my community/ volunteer activities, & now I'm extremely busy. Im definitely not 'bored' or sitting around at home! Money doesnt matter very much to me, so I do what feels right for our fsmily.
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11-03-2016 21:39 #33
I went back to work 1 day a week when DS was 4 months.
By 5 months, I was back full time. I've never regretted it.
11-03-2016 22:38 #34Senior Member
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DS1 is almost 7yrs and ive got DD 3yrs and DS2 6mths. Never returned full time and never will. Luckily i can earn a good wage part time
11-03-2016 22:41 #35
I went back part time (2 days) when ds was 6 months. At 18 months I increased my hours (3-3.5 days) and at 2 increased to 3.5-4 days. I think by 2.5-3 I could do fulltime (though probably won't).
12-03-2016 06:36 #36
12-03-2016 06:48 #37
How old was your baby when you felt okay returning to work full time?
I work a lot of hours and have a 6 and a 2 year old, I still don't feel ok about it but it's what my family needs unfortunately . I'm lucky though my youngest gets cares for by my mil and fil who adore him, my oldest did daycare and she was fine with it but the thought of my youngest in daycare gives me major anxiety because he's such a different kid.
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12-03-2016 07:02 #38
I studied full time (DD in daycare 5 days full time) when DD was 2 for the whole year but the most I worked after that was 4 days a week. DH was working 80-100 hour weeks at that stage so me going full time would have been too hard.
After DS I said I would start casual work once DS started sleeping through but by 9 months we needed the money so I started working a couple of days a week anyhow. DH started working FIFO so I stuck to part time til he came back then we both had local full time jobs when DS was 18m (DD 7yo) for 12 months. DS still woke 1-2 times a night almost the whole time. DH and I both had to work overtime as well. It was one full-on year. I wouldn't say I regretted going full time as it meant we finally got our house deposit together and bought. But life would have been a lot easier if one of us could have worked part time.
I'm 3 days this year and it's a lot easier. Especially for DD. Having both of us working impacted her a lot more as it was hard to arrange play dates or attend special school events. DS was none the wiser really and loved daycare.
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13-03-2016 14:11 #40Senior Member
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I went back at 12 months for 4 days a week. It was (and still is) too much for both me and my daughter but there was no option to do less. We have a nanny for my dd which made the transition much easier though. She wouldn't have coped with 4 full days at daycare and probably still wouldn't now at 20 months.
I'm pregnant again now and won't go back to 4 days. 3 will be my limit with young kids. I feel like I can't get anything done for the 4 days I'm at work so am packing all housework, bonding, cooking etc into my 3 days off. Exhausting!
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