+ Reply to Thread
Page 6 of 7 FirstFirst ... 4567 LastLast
Results 51 to 60 of 66
  1. #51
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,309
    Thanks
    697
    Thanked
    688
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    We bring wine. That way they can choose to use it at the event or keep it as a thank you.

    When I say this though I mean it. We have a coeliac in the household and I usually make events gluten free so nothing gets contaminated.

    One pet hate though is when I ask people not to bring anything and they bring something (usually with gluten in it) that requires the oven. I'm usually using the oven if I have people over and facilitating this is a hassle.

  2. #52
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    987
    Thanks
    226
    Thanked
    500
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Whenever we invite guests for lunch or dinner (or a play date), and they ask what to bring, I always say, "nothing thanks, I've got the food organised." I love entertaining and prefer to do the food myself, but I would hope that they would bring some flowers as a 'thank you' gesture.
    We had two kinder families for lunch on Sunday and neither of them came with flowers or drink. I thought that was pretty poor form.
    If I'm told not to bring anything, I assume that just means not to worry about bringing food, but I ALWAYS take flowers - ALWAYS.

  3. #53
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    4,850
    Thanks
    4,415
    Thanked
    4,270
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week

    Default What to bring when you're told not to bring a thing

    I can't believe how many people take something to a play date! 😧

    Proper lunch or dinner invite, yes take wine/flowers/chocolate. A play date??? Nothing. If somebody comes over I just makes some tea or coffee and offer the mom cookies or something, they usually have their own snack for their child. Likewise when I go over to somebody's house. It's meant to be casual and an opportunity to give each other a bit of a break (cleaning house, chasing rogue toddler in the park, etc), why add stress with expectations like this? To me the 'thank you' is reciprocating the favor/play date. Genuinely never occurred to me to take anything and nobody has ever brought anything to me.

  4. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to HollyGolightly81 For This Useful Post:

    FearlessLeader  (09-03-2016),MissMuppet  (09-03-2016),NancyBlackett  (09-03-2016)

  5. #54
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    6,880
    Thanks
    5,204
    Thanked
    3,904
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I always take something over whether it be playdate, lunch or whatever. Depends on how well I know them it's usually scones or Anzac biscuits for new friends. I will cook fancier stuff for good mates/family.

    I've got tomato and feta tartlets ready for tomorrow's morning tea

  6. #55
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    10,579
    Thanks
    3,229
    Thanked
    6,565
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I always take something over whether it be playdate, lunch or whatever. Depends on how well I know them it's usually scones or Anzac biscuits for new friends. I will cook fancier stuff for good mates/family.

    I've got tomato and feta tartlets ready for tomorrow's morning tea
    See you about 10am!!!

    I've been on 4 new play dates since DS started kindy and I have always just bought fruit - until I get to know them I then work out if and what to take or not - 1 mum had a complete afternoon tea buffet set up , another had nothing as she has 4 kids and ran out of time to make something so the fruit was very welcome - personally I always have tons of food and don't like it when people bring things over but I do find it hard not to take something to someone's house ! ( especially if we've just met)

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to Elijahs Mum For This Useful Post:

    Rose&Aurelia&Hannah  (09-03-2016)

  8. #56
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    2,264
    Thanks
    2,117
    Thanked
    1,745
    Reviews
    12
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I always take something over whether it be playdate, lunch or whatever. Depends on how well I know them it's usually scones or Anzac biscuits for new friends. I will cook fancier stuff for good mates/family.

    I've got tomato and feta tartlets ready for tomorrow's morning tea
    Omg! That sounds delicious. I'm in Canberra... Where exactly will these tartlets be? 😜

    Back to the op I'd probably take some biscuits. In general I take something if it's a new friend but if a close friend says "don't bring a thing" then I embrace the chance to be lazy and expect them to do the same when they come to my place.

  9. #57
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    6,880
    Thanks
    5,204
    Thanked
    3,904
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by BettyV View Post
    Omg! That sounds delicious. I'm in Canberra... Where exactly will these tartlets be? 😜

    Back to the op I'd probably take some biscuits. In general I take something if it's a new friend but if a close friend says "don't bring a thing" then I embrace the chance to be lazy and expect them to do the same when they come to my place.
    Gungahlin!

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to Rose&Aurelia&Hannah For This Useful Post:

    BettyV  (09-03-2016)

  11. #58
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    2,264
    Thanks
    2,117
    Thanked
    1,745
    Reviews
    12
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    Gungahlin!
    Lol! Funnily enough that's exactly where I'll be too. I promise I'm not stalking you for your tartlets.

    Sorry for derailing op. I'll stop now. 😊

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to BettyV For This Useful Post:

    Rose&Aurelia&Hannah  (09-03-2016)

  13. #59
    Join Date
    Feb 2016
    Posts
    1,482
    Thanks
    14
    Thanked
    907
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by siansmum View Post
    Whenever we invite guests for lunch or dinner (or a play date), and they ask what to bring, I always say, "nothing thanks, I've got the food organised." I love entertaining and prefer to do the food myself, but I would hope that they would bring some flowers as a 'thank you' gesture.
    We had two kinder families for lunch on Sunday and neither of them came with flowers or drink. I thought that was pretty poor form.
    If I'm told not to bring anything, I assume that just means not to worry about bringing food, but I ALWAYS take flowers - ALWAYS.
    I'm the opposite, if I am inviting people over and say to bring nothing, I completely expect nothing. Flowers would make me feel extremely uncomfortable to be honest.

  14. #60
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    in a wormhole
    Posts
    2,770
    Thanks
    4,604
    Thanked
    2,813
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by siansmum View Post
    Whenever we invite guests for lunch or dinner (or a play date), and they ask what to bring, I always say, "nothing thanks, I've got the food organised." I love entertaining and prefer to do the food myself, but I would hope that they would bring some flowers as a 'thank you' gesture.
    We had two kinder families for lunch on Sunday and neither of them came with flowers or drink. I thought that was pretty poor form.
    If I'm told not to bring anything, I assume that just means not to worry about bringing food, but I ALWAYS take flowers - ALWAYS.
    Poor form? But you told them to bring nothing! People aren't mind readers.

    This thread perfectly illustrates how people have different ideas about etiquette - what some consider polite, others consider rude. So I try to give the benefit of the doubt. Whatever my friends bring (or don't bring) is just fine - they're almost certainly doing what they think is best.

  15. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to MissMuppet For This Useful Post:

    atomicmama  (10-03-2016),babyno1onboard  (09-03-2016),Best Things  (09-03-2016),FearlessLeader  (09-03-2016),just her chameleon  (09-03-2016),Lillynix  (10-03-2016),MrsMummaButterfly  (09-03-2016),~Marigold~  (09-03-2016)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Should I bring it up with cc?
    By harvs in forum General Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 30-07-2015, 19:23
  2. Food that you just cannot bring yourself to eat... what is it?
    By GlitterFarts in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 114
    Last Post: 18-03-2015, 19:36

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
FEATURED SUPPORTER
ProSwimProSwim runs learn to swim classes for babies, children and adults. Our indoor centre in Plympton Park has lessons all ...
REVIEWS
"Pigeon teats rule!"
by Alex
Pigeon PP Wide Neck reviews ›
"Wonderful natural Aussie made product!"
by Mrstwr
Baby U Goat Milk Moisturiser reviews ›
"Replaced good quality with cheap tight nappies"
by Kris
Coles Comfy Bots Nappies reviews ›