We have friends down as guardians should something happen to DH and I. Our families know. I don't want our friends to have to deal with any fallout should the worst happen. Our will also leaves pretty much everything to them should we both die - both life insurances, house (proceeds of its sale) etc. That way they can hopefully raise our kids as well as their own without extra financial burden.
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03-03-2016 21:47 #11
03-03-2016 22:02 #12
Non family Guardian for your kids if the worst was to happen.
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04-03-2016 01:00 #13
it is incredibly important to talk to everyone involved.
Not only the friends that you have elected to be your childrens guardian - but your own families to ensure that they do not contest your wishes. That they will be understanding and supportive.
In the event of your death, your children will need everyone on their side and on the same page.
04-03-2016 05:38 #14Senior Member
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We were having friends...but we did speak to family, who were upset and not understanding at all.
The friends we had thought of then ended the friendship on us, so glad we didn't do that. But it means we have no one. My DH's family is not trustworthy, and my brother is childless by choice, and he was very unsure when we asked him as we basically asked him to potentially live a life he simply doesn't want to live.
My parents desperately want to be guardians, but it would be too much on them IMO...so, we're stuck...and as such have no will as we don't have anyone.
04-03-2016 08:35 #15
You only need a guardian if you both die at the same time. Let's face it that's pretty unlikely.
04-03-2016 08:46 #16
This caused a bit of an argument with DH last night. His attitude was "what does it matter, we will be dead and therefore not care what happens".
I said "don't you care what happens to the girls if we die?" "No, because I will be dead."
We also couldn't agree on suitable guardians. Fingers crossed we both don't die together now..... And that he dies first!
What a disgusting attitude. I guess he just doesn't like to think that way but it's very frustrating.
04-03-2016 08:53 #17
@Little Miss Sunshine it's not surprising. If this is the first time you've raised it with him it's a common reaction. He'l hopefully think on it and realise you're just being sensible. It took a few conversations before we settled on someone.
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04-03-2016 08:57 #18
04-03-2016 09:17 #19
I don't have a will and need to do that. That being said I'm a solo mum so it's a choice of my family or my family! Pretty easy choice, my sister has one boy and couldn't have more because of infertility. We are each other's kids second mum. But even if she couldn't have them I don't know anyone I wouldn't want to have them.
04-03-2016 18:07 #20
Are you sure I just can't stick my head in the sand and not say anything??? I don't even know what I would say. I'm a big 🐓🐓🐓🐓🐓
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