Ok so I'm not in a wonderful Marriage with the white picket fence ..
But tonight is just another event that proves to me he don't give a ****...
So things aren't 100% between us in fact going down hill fast ...watching the clock tick any counting down days until end of April. ..
Any how I purchased a desk over the weekend and he picked it up Monday afternoon. ..
So been sitting in my room since then wanted to get it put up and organized (especially with me studying)
so I sit down ...have a cuppa ...then head up to room to start putting it together (ON MY OWN)
he comes in has a **** sees what I'm doing then walks back out..
I curse him under my breath and say to my self I can do this...well it was ****ing heavy to do but I did it ...on my own without his help...start move the bedroom around to accommodate the new desk ...loving that it was also a good reason to clean the room as I go also..
When I decide on were it's going to go .. I start moving it and it the process it collapses and falls apart (I'm thinking I didn't lock it into place properly)
I'm trying to hold it up with all of my strength (all the while he is in the toilet having a crap)
I'm trying to hold this heavy desk top trying to save it thinking by doing so it would be OK ...he pokes his head out the door and says "what" "what" what's happening ..my back is killing me. .at this stage ...I yell by then oh ****ing nothing (he could clearly see at this stage what was going on but wasn't going to lift a finger to help ...then yells at me back and says **** off and closes the door and starts to have a shower...all the while I'm STILL standing holding the heavy desk ...by this time I'm almost in tears ....fighting back the tears. ..my 8 year old and 5 year old are in a panic by then because they could see that I was upset and in pain and that the desk was broken..
I eventually get the desk on the floor to see what happened and YES it's ****ed ....totally stuffed ... $150 down the drain in 30min ...he grabs the boys and says come on bed time before you get yelled at also.... (meaning me)...
I packed it all back up a and had a shower and had a cry ...I ****ing hurts that not one offer of help was given by him at all ...
I purchased a $400 bird for him a few months ago ..did the research found a breeder. ..when we got the cage I helped him build it ...he didn't have to ask ...I just helped him ...
It hurts ....it's not ****ing fair ....so now he has the ****s and is down stairs ... (we normally put the boys to bed....then watch TV in bed together. ..)
So now I'm in the ****s again ..it system always me ...me what I do ....me what I say ...never him ...he is always right ...never wrong ....
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01-03-2016 19:31 #1
Need to get this off my chest
01-03-2016 19:35 #2Senior Member
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I'm sorry he treats you this way.
01-03-2016 19:58 #3
Could a couple of screws fix it?
01-03-2016 20:49 #4
Because he's an a55 and you are still there for him to treat you like this.
01-03-2016 21:06 #5
You should not be doing this in front of your kids. It's not healthy for them to witness this.
You and your DH are adults. You are in this marriage. They had no choice. You need to both stop doing this in their presence.
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01-03-2016 21:07 #6Senior Member
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You deserve better
01-03-2016 21:09 #7Senior Member
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Do you think you will stay together?
01-03-2016 21:21 #8
Did you ask for help? My husband, who is actually one of the good ones, would expect me to ask for help if I needed/wanted it. I find men aren't that good at reading minds. Maybe ask for his help to figure out if the desk can be fixed.
He could well be downstairs having a moan that you have the $hits with him. Communication doesn't seem great in this relationship.
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