For anyone that's gone over and above the magical '40 week' mark, what did you do to help you feel better/get your mind off things?
DS was born at 41+2 (spontaneous labor) and I was quite depressed even before I got to 40 weeks, I didn't want to go over and naively thought I could induce labor through various popular natural 'methods'. None of which worked for me.
Although i'm in a much better head space this time, my due date is looming and I'm worried anxiety is setting in. Probably enhanced by the fact I am hoping for a VBAC and don't want to feel pressure to intervene etc. My OB is supportive and happy for me to go 14 days over, but I'm hoping like hell it doesn't come to that.
I don't want to hear all the home remedies - just want to know how you kept your mind off things and how to deal with all the comments and suggestions from well meaning friends, relatives and strangers (rather than snapping/wanting to punch them 😂).
I am doing all I can to encourage labor but I understand it's not up to me, it's up to my baby!
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29-02-2016 20:38 #1
Coping with going overdue
29-02-2016 20:41 #2Senior Member
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Coping with going overdue
I was induced at 40+5. I had the added bonus that my ob was on leave until I was 40+3, so I was kinda hoping bub would stay put.
I had done a hypnobirthing course, so spent my days trying to relax, listening to birthing affirmations, and resting on the couch watching movies.
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29-02-2016 20:45 #3Senior Member
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Mine were both a bit over due - DD1 at 41 weeks and DD2 at 40+4. I remember thinking that every twinge was the start of labor - it drove me nuts!
In hindsight, I think I would have marked 42 weeks on the calendar and just kept telling myself that the baby was not coming until then. Then if it comes before then (and chances are it will), it's a bonus.
Other than that, just keep as busy as you can (if you're not feeling like a whale stuck on the couch! ) Do whatever you really enjoy - go out for coffee with friends, watch your favourite movies, talk to weird strangers on internet parenting forums....
29-02-2016 20:58 #4
Lol talking to strangers on Internet forums 😂😂 - pretty much!
29-02-2016 20:59 #5
From the start I never expected ds to come at 40 weeks - so that helped a lot. It's just an average. He came at 41+1. The week he was due I spent trying to stay cool in 40C heat and tried to get motivated to read Birth Skills. I think I spent a lot of time on bh!
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29-02-2016 21:10 #6Senior Member
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I'm not sure if I am going to be helpful but my 1st was going to be an 'overdue' baby. I had a lot of anxiety in my first pregnancy I wanted him out as I was worried something would happen if he went over (I was induced a day or two before the official due date).
I was worried from full term (i.e. 37 weeks).
I am determined to be more relaxed this time - so far I have had a lot less anxiety.
Maybe every morning take a walk (or evening - whichever you prefer). Bake/cook 1 thing a day for 'after baby' to freeze. I think you are doing acupuncture - maybe do something for yourself every day (massage one day, mani/pedi etc etc). Just to fill your day with something so your brain quietens a little.
Regarding the strangers - tell them you have 3 months left to go lol.
Its hard. I know I will probably be in your shoes in 6 weeks.
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29-02-2016 21:14 #7
Oh that's what I did! Baked lactation biscuits and put some uncooked dough in the freezer. It came in handy in the first couple of weeks after birth.
29-02-2016 21:18 #8
I'll be seeing my OB on Wednesday she did offer to do a stretch & sweep but I'm a bit anti-intervention of any kind. I might consider it if I get to 41 wks. I will ask her to check to see if anything appears to be happening with my cervix so I at least have some idea. I never had any warning before labor began with DS so I am completely clueless as to where I am at. I feel like a ticking time bomb!
29-02-2016 21:20 #9
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29-02-2016 21:23 #10
It's hard, I totally relate!
DD was 41+4 and by then I was well and truly over it. This time round I'm seriously thinking about asking to be induced between 40-41 weeks, I understand the risks etc but the logistics in us being able to organise care for DD and my DHs time off work is tricky to say the least. I actually think I'm feeling more anxious about that than the birth itself!
At the moment (I'm 38 weeks) I'm trying to fill in the days with just enough activity to get me out the house and not dwell on things, but at the same time trying not to exhaust myself. Trips to the library, catching up with other friends who don't work or work p/t, and the usual personal stuff like waxing, pedi, hair, etc... seems to be helping keep the anxiety at bay. Also making sure I spend good quality time with DD helps, talking about what babies need etc.
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