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    Jeez my SIL won't even leave her 16 year old & 13 year old kids alone for 10 mins let alone leave the house without them. lol.

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    My DD had a friend at school who would walk home with her sister (about 5 or 6 blocks through the neighbourhood) and they'd be alone until the parents got home at around 5pm. The girls were 8 and 6.

    I've only just allowed DD11 (year 7) house keys and 1 day every week-fortnight she rides her bike to school (10 mins). I still get her to msg when she arrives.

    I couldn't leave DD6 or DS5 alone with her- I know they'd make life hell for her and it would all end in tears! Maybe in another couple of years though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterFarts View Post
    Jeez my SIL won't even leave her 16 year old & 13 year old kids alone for 10 mins let alone leave the house without them. lol.
    What? Why not? My sister left home at 16. That seems a little over protective?

    I regularly let my 10 year old stay home for an hour or so. Every precaution taken.

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    I also have no problems leaving my (almost) 12yr old at home, she has her own set of house keys. We have have a procedure/rules for everything, and she is always fine, I have meals ready or prepped to go, so she feeds herself. It's just that I wouldn't leave my younger one with her.

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    NO NO NO!!! Absolutely anything can happen so very quickly, and I don't believe a 13 year old has the maturity to be able to cope with a dangerous situation or medical emergency.

    I won't even leave our 5 year old son with my husband's two daughters who are 22 and 19 - they are totally untrustworthy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lillynix View Post
    Because I afforded him the trust to stay home on his own (we live in a quiet area), I gave him the rules, rang my Husband and told him what was happening, and told him to ring my phone, which I left with my son, at the half way mark and see how he was doing. He was tired and feeling unwell (just a cold) and didn't want to come at sit outside in the cold for an hour whilst I took 9yo DD to swimming. I took the 6yo and the 4yo with me.

    I was staying home alone by myself when I was 8yo, for long stretches of time as my mother worked evenings in a chalet doing bar/wait work. I would cook myself dinner, watch tv, bake a snack for when my mum got home, and go to bed. I am raising my children to be responsible and independent and to show them that I trust them.

    He was perfectly fine when I returned home (I was only a 4min drive down the road), he was still happily playing minecraft and watching cartoons. I appreciate that not everyone would do some of the things that I do with my children, and that's okay, but I would never knowingly place them at risk of anything. And that's just it, isn't it? Risk evaluation, and everyone's is different
    I appreciate what you're saying, and of course as his parent that's your choice to make... In hindsight my original post was a bit judgey, apologies for that.

    However, I do think that no matter how mature and responsible an 8 year old is, they still lack the decision making, judgement and consequence evaluation of an older (12/13 year old) child and so while they make not intentionally do something silly or dangerous, they still may unintentionally do so.

    I was also left alone for longish stretches of time (with my older sisters and without them) around the same age, and I got scared sometimes and did silly things sometimes... and my mum probably had no idea because she wasn't there.

    But you are right, ultimately it is about risk evaluation.

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    On face value (as in no relevant other information about the relationship between the two/behaviour), I absolutely would.

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    We (as a whole society) are obviously raising less responsible and sensible children these days if so many feel a 13 year old can't be trusted to care for a 6 year old for 1-2 hours.

    I took a first aid and CPR course at 12, it was a course aimed at teenagers for babysitting. Like I said earlier, the carbon monoxide alarm went off when I was babysitting a toddler and preschooler and I immediately grabbed both of them and ran to a neighbor for help. My cousin has taken first aid and CPR courses and I definitely feel she's more sensible with my 2 year old DS than my own parents, even last year at 13 I felt that way.

    Either we're raising children to be less sensible or we as a society need to lighten up.

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    Depends on the children. At 13 I was more than capable and responsible enough to look after a 6 year old. Especially just for an hour or so. I'd imagine at 5am kids that age would still be asleep in a locked house?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrsA2B View Post
    I appreciate what you're saying, and of course as his parent that's your choice to make... In hindsight my original post was a bit judgey, apologies for that.

    However, I do think that no matter how mature and responsible an 8 year old is, they still lack the decision making, judgement and consequence evaluation of an older (12/13 year old) child and so while they make not intentionally do something silly or dangerous, they still may unintentionally do so.

    . . .

    But you are right, ultimately it is about risk evaluation.

    Thanks for the apology, I did read it as a bit judgey, but hey, it's okay, we're all different! I also didn't mean for my reply to seem 'snippy' at all, so if it came across that way, I'm sorry as well.

    But this is exactly why I took the younger boys with me. I trusted him enough to be on his own, but with his younger brothers around, there's no way in hell I'd have left the house

    It all comes down to the child and the situation as well, I'm not in the habit of leaving any of them home alone, but sometimes, I feel okay with it depending on the circumstances, y'know?

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