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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    It very rare these days. I only seen it once in my life and that was 20 years ago.
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    I think it's actually a lot more common than people realise. A lot of parents at my kids old school worked and the kids got themselves home and were alone for an hour or 2 until the first parent got home.

    We're looking at this in a year or so. My older 2 will walk home from school and I'll be getting my son. They'll be alone for about an hour or so. They'll be 8 and 12.
    I tend to agree with Sonja. I know of quite a few late primary/early highschool kids that are responsible for their younger school age siblings in that hour or so either side of school. But I live in an area that reminds me of my 90's childhood, where the kids are still riding around until the streetlights come on, all of the neighbours know each other etc.

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    I possibly would depending on the children involved and how far I would be.

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    Without getting into what age etc., I can't get past this- you want to go to the gym with your husband. There is no reason why one of you can't stay home. If you were for eg. a single mum with no other possible free time and your mental health depended on some free time, then I'd say sure, go for it. But you have another option here, a really easy, straightforward option.

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    I wouldn't only because MY 6yo DD wouldn't listen to her older brother just to annoy him and so I don't believe he would have the ability to adequately supervised her. But if that was to change and she actually listened then maybe I would. I guess it depends on the dynamics of the kids, whether they know what to do in case of emergency etc. I'd be saying no cooking of toast though, only because I get nervous of kids and electrical appliances.

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    It really would depend on what my kids were like.
    But i dont see why you and your dh cant take it in turns to go to the gym

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    I think it is totally fine. I think those ages are fine, the time of day is fine, the length you plan to leave them is fine and the reason you are thinking of leaving them is fine. I would assume this would be appropriate for the average 13 and 6 year old and would only not do it if you have a particular reason that it's not ok for these two children (especially if either child said they weren't happy with it). X

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Without getting into what age etc., I can't get past this- you want to go to the gym with your husband. There is no reason why one of you can't stay home. If you were for eg. a single mum with no other possible free time and your mental health depended on some free time, then I'd say sure, go for it. But you have another option here, a really easy, straightforward option.
    ^^ this

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    My eldest is only 10 but I asked myself if he was 13, would I leave him at home with his younger siblings for an hour? No way!!! That's in my circumstance though.

    You know your kids better than everyone else. Have you spoken to your 13 year old about it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Without getting into what age etc., I can't get past this- you want to go to the gym with your husband. There is no reason why one of you can't stay home. If you were for eg. a single mum with no other possible free time and your mental health depended on some free time, then I'd say sure, go for it. But you have another option here, a really easy, straightforward option.
    What is so bad about wanting to go to the gym with your DH early? At my gym there are heaps of couples who come and work out together, while their kids are at home sleeping. It's basically a milestone in parenting ...get your workouts done together in the morning cause the kids are old enough to stay home for the hour you're gone, most likely sleeping and not missing you at all...and then the afternoons and evenings are completely free for family time, and couple time...rather than one disappearing to go to the gym while the other one wrangles the kids after a day at work. It's something the parents with younger kids dream about
    I'm not sure what's so hard to 'get past,' really...
    And you know...it's a 13 year old and a 6 year old, not an 8 year old and a 6 year old. At 13 I was babysitting babies while their parent's went out for dinner...so on my own in a house with a baby until 9.30-10pm...responsible for bathing, feeding, and getting the baby to sleep. It's only another three years before a 13 year old can get behind the wheel of a car, only another 1 1/2 years until they can hold a job. The idea that a 13 year old won't be able to handle a most likely sleeping 6 year until 6.30am is something I'm struggling to get past.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    What is so bad about wanting to go to the gym with your DH early? At my gym there are heaps of couples who come and work out together, while their kids are at home sleeping. It's basically a milestone in parenting ...get your workouts done together in the morning cause the kids are old enough to stay home for the hour you're gone, most likely sleeping and not missing you at all...and then the afternoons and evenings are completely free for family time, and couple time...rather than one disappearing to go to the gym while the other one wrangles the kids after a day at work. It's something the parents with younger kids dream about
    I'm not sure what's so hard to 'get past,' really...
    And you know...it's a 13 year old and a 6 year old, not an 8 year old and a 6 year old. At 13 I was babysitting babies while their parent's went out for dinner...so on my own in a house with a baby until 9.30-10pm...responsible for bathing, feeding, and getting the baby to sleep. It's only another three years before a 13 year old can get behind the wheel of a car, only another 1 1/2 years until they can hold a job. The idea that a 13 year old won't be able to handle a most likely sleeping 6 year until 6.30am is something I'm struggling to get past.
    Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with a 13yo being responsible for getting a 6yo out of the house if there was an emergency situation. I can't think of a situation that would necessitate leaving children at home on their own TBH.

    DF and I tag team in the mornings, one goes at 5am-6am, the other 6-7am, it doesn't encroach on family time & we both get to the gym.

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