I lasted 6 months (gave notice at 4 months 8 weeks notice was required contractually) at a large law firm. It SHOULD have been a dream job. Money was insane, large office, it came with a promotion from associate to senior associate, opportunity to seek specialist accreditation, conference and travel budget, networking opportunities fairly early in my career etc... etc... blah blah blah. It was awful from day one. The culture was like a shark pool, everyone was out for themselves and deliberately undermined and back stabbed.
The pressure was intense to achieve billable hours (which were 7.5 per supposed 7.75 day). Like you ,I had a young son - whom in the interview process they had assured me would be just fine as they were such a family friendly firm pfft!
For me no it did not get better. For me I should have left sooner. I don't regret leaving it taught me that that culture is not for me. If that means I work in smaller firms for less money than so be it.
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25-02-2016 06:46 #11
25-02-2016 07:21 #12
Hmm, it's a tough one. I agree that if you have a choice, an unhappy job is something to avoid. I also agree that it can take time to feel fully integrated into a new work place.
However, I would add to that that before leaving I would ask myself a) the root of the problems and b) if they are something that I feel able to change or are transient.
For example - is some of it culture shock about returning to work? Have I walked into a particularly busy/stressful time because of a project that everyone is working on? (Sorry I know nothing about billable hours etc!) Is there a mentor/manager that I can go to and ask for training as was promised? Is there a way I can see that I will be able to work more efficiently when I'm used to the job? Is the career path right for me and it's just the company that's the wrong fit - if so, is it worth toughing it out to get the experience I need to move on?
I hope today is better for you OP, I really feel for you...
25-02-2016 08:09 #13Junior Member
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Ok. Management consulting thrives on its mantra of "you are the best of the best" thing. It's part of the culture. It's far more kill or be killed and doesn't suit everyone. And attracts some people who love to kill off others. Due to the project nature of its business cycles some can be quite flexible others are not. It's seen as just fine to move on from one firm to another in this industry and there are smaller firms which are less over the top which you might like. But you must try and give it a year. you will learn a lot and be very attractive to other firms if you survive. I am assuming you are at one if the big ones, McKinsey, BCG etc etc
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25-02-2016 08:16 #14
Yes, I left one job during the probation period. From memory I gave them my resignation after 5 weeks, but agreed to stay on for a further 3 weeks to give them a chance to hire a replacement.
I was so miserable that I couldn't enjoy my weekends because I dreaded going back on the Monday! I just couldn't stay there.
The next job I ended up in was actually pretty abysmal too, but I just stuck it out for 18 months. I saw numerous staff leave within the probationary period while I was there (many lasted only 1 or 2 weeks) because the married couple who ran the business were just that unpleasant to work for.
My advice would be to stick it out a little longer to see if things improve, but don't feel like you have to stay if you are truly miserable.
I think it's so important to be at least content at work. If you can be truly happy, that's a bonus!
25-02-2016 08:16 #15
I'd leave, if you hate it cut your losses and look for something else.
I once went for a shift at a place and never went back even tho it seemed very good on paper I just got a weird vibe from it and sure enough a few months later I was told they were being investigated for some illegalities.
25-02-2016 21:39 #16
Thank you so much everyone. I'm finding all your responses so helpful. Some really valuable advice, thank you.
Today was a much better day. So much better. I actually enjoyed myself!
We really need the money so I'll try and stick it out as long as possible and try to learn as much as I can. And if I end up being one of those people who turn out to love it then well and good, otherwise I'll try to use it as a stepping stone to some other job. I don't think its the kind of thing I could do long term - I'd burn out.
16-03-2016 06:31 #17
Just started work and HATE it.
Have things improved @MissMuppet?
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16-03-2016 19:54 #18
Yes! I'm working incredibly long hours (7:30 - 6 with lunch eaten at my desk and working from home at night) but I have genuinely enjoyed this week. I'm working with a small team at the moment and they've been wonderful - such a contrast from my first few weeks. The projects only last a couple of weeks and then its on to a new one with a new team which makes me a nervous, but for now I'm enjoying it. Even if the days are long and the deadlines short.
16-03-2016 20:55 #19
I was an admin at a management consultants for quite a few years.
The new grads get worked hard & fast and you can see it takes quite a toll on some of them.
Im glad to hear your last few days were an improv on the first ones
16-03-2016 21:30 #20
I work in the accounting field (in case the user name didn't give it away!) and have heard both great and horror stories about what is expected of grad employees. The majority though is that people with other commitments outside of work (a family at home, elderly parents to care for, etc) tend to struggle just purely because they don't have the time to give the business that is expected.
A close friend of mine was expected to work until midnight on average 3-4 times a week, I found it staggering.
I'm really happy to hear you're doing better than you when you started the thread and I hope it continues to improve.
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