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    Default Anyone else bottle feeding and proud of it?

    I've just had my first baby and was really looking forward to and planning to breast feed.

    Unfortunately it just wasn't meant to be and he's now on formula and doing really well. (Gained 80g in two days when we switched him).

    I was really surprised by the social pressure I felt about breast feeding though. I had one midwife in the hospital tell me at 2am when I was in tears that if I didn't breast feed my baby wouldn't be well enough to come home.

    I just want to say to anyone who has been treated this way that this is so not okay! I had a really tricky birth, they told me my baby was sick and put him on antibiotics for days but then found out they were wrong and there was nothing wrong with him, I was tired and so on and so on.

    I specifically requested a bottle in the hospital and they refused to give it to him which stressed him and me out. I now look at the photos of him in hospital (we were there for almost a week) and I can see how hungry he was in each photo. Sad to think that considering how much he loves his bottle now!

    It took me a while to get over not being able to breast feed. I cried a lot about it and beat myself up but the truth is he's happy and healthy and I think you should do what's right for you and your baby without feeling bad.

    I honestly think the most important thing is that he's healthy and getting what he needs.

    Okay, rave over. Hope no one takes offence. Just trying to encourage people to do what works for them!

    x

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    I am so sorry you were treated like that.

    21 yrs ago I had my first baby and gave up breastfeeding on day 2. I was treated appallingly in hospital and I hate the fact it still happens.

    there is nothing wrong with bottle feeding!

    Well done mumma! Enjoy motherhood!

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    Oh mate, bottlefeed with pride I say!! I raised two daughters on formula and they are healthy. My milk didn't come in with DD1 after a traumatic birth, so after unknowingly starving her for 2 weeks, I switched to formula and never looked back. DD2 was on formula at 1 week as I was worried from my experience from DD1...Fast forward 9 years, I want to have a crack at breastfeeding this baby (aaarrrgh being induced tomorrow), but if for some reason I don't have a good milk supply, I won't feel guilty about bottle feeding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    I am so sorry you were treated like that.

    21 yrs ago I had my first baby and gave up breastfeeding on day 2. I was treated appallingly in hospital and I hate the fact it still happens.

    there is nothing wrong with bottle feeding!

    Well done mumma! Enjoy motherhood!
    I was really surprised at how bad they were! And how rough they were with my son! He was screaming and so stressed and they would force him screaming on to my boob which of course didn't help. Talk about scar the child!

    I remember one night in the hospital when my husband had gone home to get something I was stuck in one spot in the room and couldn't get up (hadn't thought about that when I'd sat and had stitches and low iron so couldn't move) and he was screaming. I put him down on a pillow on my lap and told him 'I love you but I don't know what to do.' It's not nice that they made me feel that way.

    I can't believe they were treating people badly 21 years ago and continue to do so! Not cool!

    Thanks! I'm enjoying it a lot more now he's satisfied and getting what he needs!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marchbundle View Post
    Oh mate, bottlefeed with pride I say!! I raised two daughters on formula and they are healthy. My milk didn't come in with DD1 after a traumatic birth, so after unknowingly starving her for 2 weeks, I switched to formula and never looked back. DD2 was on formula at 1 week as I was worried from my experience from DD1...Fast forward 9 years, I want to have a crack at breastfeeding this baby (aaarrrgh being induced tomorrow), but if for some reason I don't have a good milk supply, I won't feel guilty about bottle feeding.
    Thanks! I was bottle fed and I'm fine! So was my husband. I can see the plusses in both, but even the can of formula says that breast feeding is better. What the!?! Not helping those who can't breast feed! Or even those who choose not to.

    If we have more than one baby I might give it a go, but I will be more clear with them and even take my own formula if they're going to be stubborn about it!

    Good luck with being induced!!! xx

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    Both my kids were bottle fed. DS who is 16 was bottle fed from 3 weeks and DD who is 18 months was bottle fed from day 2. Best decisions ever!

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    21 yrs ago there were no DVDs but good old videos! I told the midwife I wanted to bottlefeed and she handed me a video tape and showed me into the staff room and said watch this . I learnt how to sterilise and make bottles from a video.

    I struggled with bottle feeding. It's hard knowing if it's the right formula or right teat. Yes BF is harder but gosh I struggled with bottle feeding too

    Makes me so angry that mums are still made to feel bad due to how they feed their baby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DizzyDaisy View Post
    Both my kids were bottle fed. DS who is 16 was bottle fed from 3 weeks and DD who is 18 months was bottle fed from day 2. Best decisions ever!
    I was bottle fed and was fine! Again, I can see the plus in both, but I was amazed at the pressure! Even the SIDS website says you should breast feed!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    21 yrs ago there were no DVDs but good old videos! I told the midwife I wanted to bottlefeed and she handed me a video tape and showed me into the staff room and said watch this . I learnt how to sterilise and make bottles from a video.

    I struggled with bottle feeding. It's hard knowing if it's the right formula or right teat. Yes BF is harder but gosh I struggled with bottle feeding too

    Makes me so angry that mums are still made to feel bad due to how they feed their baby.
    Fortunately we've had a lot of success with bottle feeding. My mum was fascinated to see bubs takes to his bottle regardless of the size teat and so on. He makes the cutest noises drinking and clearly loves his bottle!

    Sorry you had that issue. I think this parenting stuff can be quite the challenge! I'm only just starting to learn this.

    Agreed! I'm annoyed now I'm out of hospital and feeling a bit more human! They should support a mum's decisions, not make them feel bad!

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    Yep! After a horrible experience with DD - I had no milk and she ended up in special care because she was tiny and starving then horrible pressure from midwives I was in the same position as you. She was fully FF from hospital and is now a happy, healthy, clever and not obese 2 yo. After that experience I decided to FF my DS who is also a happy healthy bubba.
    Do what's best for you and your family I say


 

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