But of a TMI topic but wandering if anyone wanted to share their PM experiences? DH and I practiced this with our first but I ended up with an emergency C so it really was a bit of a waste of time. I am hoping for a VBAC this time and we've done a bit of PM but I hate doing it and sometimes think hell, it's going to hurt anyway, if I am going to tear I'll probably tear regardless... Why go through the pain now etc.
So if you practiced PM, did it save you from tearing? Do you think it did anything at all? Would you do it again.
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18-02-2016 20:54 #1
Perineal massage - worth it?
18-02-2016 21:07 #2Senior Member
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18-02-2016 21:08 #3
I assumed you were going to have another c section but in the event that you do have a vaginal birth I have never massaged that area and had no tears with DD1 but had a tear with stitches with DD2. My personal opinion is, if you are going to tear, you will tear, no amount of massage will help. I guess it's a personal preference. I did consider it to prepare for this birth, but haven't bothered.
18-02-2016 22:55 #4Senior Member
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This post will also be TMI. I have had 4 babies and done PM with all of them.
As weird as it is I believed PM helped me not to tear.
Baby # 1 - I was 6 weeks premature and she was my smallest baby. Been premie I actually didn't do PM for to long and I did not tear but had some grazing.
Baby # 2 - C-Section.
Baby # 3 & 4 - were both VBAC's and both were over 4kg no tears or grazing. I did PM with both using oil.
From memory I used almond oil or Melissa oil, I think it was the oil that really helped out more so than the stretching as I did have trouble with Stretching but DH was happy to help out lol.
I think the oil helped allot as it kept things supple. I guess it is a little like when you have dry skin and moisturise or like leather if it is oiled/conditioned it is very flexible and can be stretched and bent but it is a lot harder to achieve this when the leather dries out and sometimes it cracks (not suggesting our lady bit are leather just an analogy) .
I never did the PM so it was overly painful just gentle stretching. Perhaps I wasn't doing it right. From my experiences I defiantly recommend doing PM with oil. If it is uncomfortable than just do what you can . Good luck with your VBAC
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19-02-2016 08:50 #5
I'm probably just being lazy, PM feels like another chore and an uncomfortable one at that.
19-02-2016 08:55 #6
Have heard water birth can reduce tearing/severity too so will see if I end up in the bath again. My OB is happy for me to have a water birth (they have water proof monitoring for VBACs) but I'm a bit hesitant worried that it might slow down my progress (as it did with DS, another story). Maybe if I'm fully dilated and ready to push I'll jump in and give it a go.
19-02-2016 09:02 #7
I did perennial massage before both of my births. I didn't tear either time - had a graze with DS but that's it. Whether the massage helped I have no idea, but I figured it was worth a shot.
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19-02-2016 09:20 #8
I really hope you get to have a VBAC this time. I mean it hurts like hell but you recover a lot quicker.
I am not sure I could have DP massage my perinieum lol. I am happy he waxes my legs, I am a bit worried about him seeing the baby coming out of my vag lol...he may never look at me the same way again
19-02-2016 10:41 #9
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19-02-2016 10:58 #10
I never did it with any of my Kids and didn't tear. Tearing occurs more due to positioning I've been told.
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