I can't believe I'm getting these compliments. I don't feel deserving. I certainly don't feel strong or resourceful.
I can tell you what I've been feeling though: fed up!
Talked at length yesterday and again today. He wants to go. So I've said (just to keep the peace) okay, give it three months. This allows me to finish my course, it allows my other child to complete his kindy term (he loves it there and they love him) and it would give us time to save up some cash and to source a place to live etc. He says gee that's selfish. You can finish the course anywhere. TAFE is like national.
And I have to pause to take a deep breath.
Then he says he wants to move to south. As in two hours south of Adelaide. Because it has nice beaches.
There are no services there for the kids, I say.
Well how hard can it be...I'll drive them once a week to the therapist or whatever.
I am starting to think he's suffered a blow to the head in the last month and it's affected his intellect. You couldn't make this **** up.
So now he's whinging about which part of Adelaide he wants to move to.
Do I think he's depressed. Yes. Will he admit this? No. Will he do anything about it? No. But I'm taking this one day at a time. I'm trying to fit in a discussion period where we sit calmly and try to work through his dissatisfaction. True, I'm not happy either but only due to the disharmony this issue is causing. He can be very derogatory and I have to just dismiss that and not take anything personally. I definitely think he's a green grasser HillDweller!
HollyGolightly81, I do hate the house though. I have to be honest. I love its elevation and it's lovely little backyard, the neighbours are wonderful and I love the view from the kitchen window. But it has a few glaring maintenance issues that the agents are not addressing and no air-con. Dear god, no air-con and it's just about killed me. The humidity is beyond reason and I'm sweating like a porn start in a sauna.
And get this!, the former tenants' mail keeps coming here and I've just been putting return to sender on it and putting it in the post box when I do my mail. Better than throwing it out, right? So out of the blue he turns up last night with his missus and they inquire as to whether I've been getting any mail and I say yeah, ******s of it, been sending it back. I then get a mouthful because I didn't give it to the agent so that they could be informed! Lol. So here I am with baby in one arm, a spatula in the other, a teatowel over my shoulder and me looking like the Mata Hari of the Town Dump and I just start laughing. You have got to be kidding me right? You don't have the brains to do a redirection and you want me to collect your mail and deliver it to my agent? Haha. hahahahahaa... See those high stairs? I'd be making my way down them now before you get a helping hand. And she says to me, oh you're so rude.
That, my friends, is the attitude of half the town. The other half is quite nice.
Your responses have kept me balanced when really I should have been going postal by now. I realise how isolated and alone I am here.
Much love to you all
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19-02-2016 19:11 #11
28-02-2016 12:10 #12Senior Member
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@MrsTickle No advice sorry however I think you're doing an amazing job of looking at things rationally and objectively. DH does sound depressed, but I'm not sure how you'll get him to the GP when he is unwilling. Good Luck honey. xx
07-03-2016 22:19 #13
Hello! I've wandered in to provide an update.
We have decided to give the town a shot.
He's gone to his doctor. Finally.
Routine blood tests meant a second appointment.
Please come urgently, the doctor said.
So suddenly we think oh no he's dying and the bigger picture appears in high definition with Dolby Surround Sound.
Diagnosis - diabetes type 1. Suddenly, it's learning to do insulin, eating a special diet etc, going to the city to get specialist care to balance out his body.
Result? No mood swings, no anger, no short fuse. All gone.
In short, his brain was being screwed by sugar.
Talked again. In the compromise that was reached, current house has to go.
So, we have broken lease and have succeeded in getting a new, lowset, air conditioned, renovated house that suits our lifestyle better.
The lining on this cloud is wonderfully silver.
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07-03-2016 22:34 #15
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07-03-2016 23:55 #16
Yay, that's great in a way 😉😀
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08-03-2016 00:41 #17
Awesome news! Diagnosis obviously not good news but good to see there was a reason why he was behaving the way he was. Good luck with the new house!
18-03-2016 10:39 #18
Waaaaaa! Your last comment has triggered a flood of tears here.
After finally having Himself sorted and him landing a job, sourcing a new house (and it's lovely), getting the kids settled into their respective daycare/kindy/school and making the decision to move forward, I get a phone call last night from a teacher at my son's school in a neighbouring class who is concerned about his progress and did I know he was suffering. Suffering is word that pulls big punches. I was sick after speaking to her.
All this time being assured by his teacher and aide that all was well, I find out that he's not been in a segregated area for special ed but in main****** and the noisy, overcrowded population has left him confused, frightened and in pain (auditory sensory overload). I had no idea.
Then the NDIS rollout dates for Qld were published yesterday pushing back an initial date of mid 2016 to 2018 which means that if I remain in Qld I will lose my current funding for my eldest as the portability rule only lasts for twelve months. So I've been slightly panicking, mostly sick with grief and wondering what to do. And then I read your last line and lose it because in spite of it all the thought of a welcome with open arms fills a very empty space within right now.
I don't know what I'd do with out BubHub.
18-03-2016 11:15 #19
I just want to give you a big virtual hug mrs tickle xx
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18-03-2016 12:46 #20
Oh mrs tickle...been following what you've been going through.
I'm pleased to hear that you are doing better.
I saw those NDIS roll out dates. ..I'm on the Gold Coast and I'm not impressed. We have funding for my daughter but I can't imagine it lasting until then. Have you ever accessed other funding? ? Or only NDIS? Because you could apply for some other things. ..
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