What are everyone's thoughts on holding bday parties for their child every year?
when I was young we would have one occasionally and it was only small.
i looked at my fridge last night and it's covered in invitations and I swear it only felt like yesterday we attended that child's bday party lol .... And once again it's the same children every year having parties.
Why does everyone have elaborate bday parties for their child every single year? I feel like I am constantly buying presents for children that I don't even know if my son is playing with at school .... If we don't go to the parties am I keeping my son from socialising .... But don't they do that at school?
Also when weekends come that's our time to have with our family as we work all week and crave for the weekend to hand out .... But is my son missing out if I say no?
I guess I'm just confused about the whole situation and don't know if saying no is being rude or my child missing out on socialising - I guess I'm dreading school years of constant bday parties
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15-02-2016 07:10 #1Senior Member
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Birthday parties for children ...... every year!
15-02-2016 07:19 #2Senior Member
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My kids are yet to be invited to a party this year, but there were LOTS last year & I'm assuming there will be more this year since my son started "big school" this year. To see if it's the same kids will be interesting...
As for my kids, my eldest daughter is in Year 4 & has only had 1 party, my other daughter in Year 2 has had 1 as well. I don't throw my kids parties each year. We said every second year, but due to us moving last year that didn't happen so their all due for 1 this year. For Miss 8 she isn't having a "party" instead it looks like she can bring 2 or 3 close friends & I will take them to the movies & lunch or to go get pedicures. Miss 7 wants a party & so does Mr 5.
I don't see the need for a party every year. We like to spend time & do something on each of our birthdays as a family. Plus parties are exhausting at the best of times lol.
15-02-2016 07:24 #3
I do parties every year - I figure I only get maybe 10-12 parties before they become teenagers and get fussy! We always had birthday parties as kids and have fabulous memories and photos and I want the same for DS - he started school this year and I think it's even more important - really they only get lunch time to actually play so I definitely make a point of organising play dates after school, he will be spending the next 13 years with most of these kids so I think it's nice to get to know them and their families and parties and play dates are the best way - we work most Saturday's so Sunday's are our "family days" but DS has a party to go to this Sunday and it's only 2 hours out of the day so no big deal
Parties don't have to be huge, our best parties were back yard parties and we invite all the family as well so they tend to be quite big - this year I'll invite the whole class (18) but in the next few years it might just be close friends
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15-02-2016 07:28 #4
I actually said to my partner that we wouldn't have a party every year and he said " well we may as well just skip her birthday then". He never had any as a kid though.
15-02-2016 07:29 #5
I do parties every year. I love doing them, seeing how excited my child is and all the fun!
15-02-2016 07:40 #6
I don't think I'll be up to a 2nd birthday party for DD this year. Her new sibling will be a month old.
15-02-2016 07:43 #7
We do parties every year. Most of my son's friends do as well. Birthdays are so exciting when you are young and I like to make my kids birthdays something they will always remember. My daughter was stillborn in 2014 and we had a little party for what should have been her first birthday and will continue to do so every year. Growing up I had a party every year, as did the majority of my friends. DP didn't have parties as his family couldn't afford it and it uses to make him feel pretty crap
15-02-2016 07:46 #8
I guess some families just love throwing parties
I personally don't feel like I'd do a big party every year for my DS. He just had his first proper party with other kids this year for his 5th birthday.
If your DS gets too many invites, you can always pick and choose which ones he goes to. You should not feel obligated to attend all of them.
15-02-2016 07:54 #9
I love kids birthdays and plan on throwing a party for each child every year I invite their friends but if for whatever reason they can't attend there's always the decline option, I have myself declined a party if I felt I needed the day for family time, that's your call.
15-02-2016 08:09 #10
I love planning parties and seeing the excitment of dd and her friends is such a wonderful memory.
They are not huge over the top things though, just some friends over and a fancy birthday cake but it makes them so happy
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