@StephyG sorry to hear hun... Seems like, just like the 2 embryos transfer matter, considered at risk, Primary is avoiding as much as they can any "at risk" situation, too high BMI being one of them...
It's like this: if you are a good candidate i.e. ticking all the boxes, you're welcome otherwise go %#^* hmmm u know what I mean! No time for them for any psychological consideration whatsoever, do no ask for empathy...
Primary are fast and effective, no sugar coating, which is good but at the sane time, you unfortunately experienced the limit of it...
Don't take it personally or let it get onto you, they see too many ppl each day to remember any of us anyway lol! Just go home and take the time you need to reach your goal, then come back to us with better chances of result!
At the end of the day, I like to think that they know what they're doing and they want success for you as much as you do...
And if you need to talk, we're here
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12-03-2016 08:12 #451
12-03-2016 08:23 #452
@SL1009, thanks for the precious info regarding the pessaries, we're eager here to know this kinda details!
Big day today for u, let us know, let us know!
@VickyP, thanks hun for details regarding BT on Sunday. But guess what: 1hour after @tjuls answered me, AF made his royal appearance lol! Exactly on the day I was expecting them which is good.
Called the nurse and I'm off this morning for 1st BT, in what will be my 2nd home again for the next 10days or so haha.
To be continued...
12-03-2016 08:41 #453Member
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@LillyM I understand what your saying and I completely understand that they are a bulk bill clinic which means they see multiple couples a day and we are just a number there and of course they don't remember many couples but in no way does that excuse ones cold attempt to give one bad news. What was she going for a tough love approach?! Fair enough I don't fit the criteria I will do very much was @tjuls said and I will most definitely work towards my goal however there is a non sugar coating way with empathy and compassion and then there is an automated robot response to deliver bad news that's what ****ted me. I certainly hope they know what they are doing would be worries if they didn't.
12-03-2016 08:54 #454
@StephyG, I hear you, there is a terrible lack of psychology and dropping some devastating news the way they do can leave you hopeless and broken.
In my previous cycle, when I've been told none of my eggs fertilized, which is pretty much the worst that could happen at that stage, I assure you that there was no sugar coating at all over the phone. And I cried all day.
But what doesn't kill us make us stronger! Right?
We got this.
12-03-2016 10:04 #455Member
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Geez they just sound so bloody mean! But we do, Especially all the ladies here this IVF stuff is pretty cut throat I reckon!
12-03-2016 22:36 #456Senior Member
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@LillyM @StephyG are both you girls in Sydney? I've found with Primary in Melbourne the GPs, Nurse, Counsellor and Specialist have all be quite personable. Administration and organisation is definitely behind par as is experience due to the fact that it's a bulk bill system. We certainly haven't found them to be blunt / cutthroat and anything we weren't sure on or they weren't comfortable with us suggesting they have talked through and explained / discussed with us. Sorry to hear you're going through this!
13-03-2016 07:50 #457
@SL1009 yeah Sydney.... As far as I am concerned, I place effectiveness first, what matters to me is the result.
Of course a bad news is always a bomb, and so you're devastated, regardless the way the bomb has been dropped.
For that reason and because I'm a very pragmatical and down-to-earth person, I don't mind really the no sugar coating process. But I do understand that for more sensitive people like StephyG, when it comes to painful sensitive subject, it might be harsh.
On another note, starting injections today, and next scan scheduled on Thursday! @tjuls when is your FET happening again? Before or after Easter long weekend?
13-03-2016 08:05 #458
I like the straight-to-the-point approach at Primary. I don't like to sugar coat bad news either but it all depends on who u see and if they've had a busy day and also what emotional I'm in that day. Some days a nice gentle approach is appreciated, other days, I want it straight out.
But I said before I've noticed even the nurses who have always been really sweet have recently been more stern and direct in their answers and it comes across like their patience is wearing thin.. I don't take that personally. I know they're busy and answering trivial questions like why do I need a trigger for a natural FET, isn't important on their list of to do things.
@LillyM - so good to hear ur starting ur 2nd stim cycle ! I'm anticipating my transfer will be after Easter (30th March). A few days after urs I think
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13-03-2016 08:13 #459
@tjuls, oh yes that's right! You and @VickyP should synch perfectly and if everything goes well for me this time, I should be a few days ahead, or a couple, depending on whether it's a 3 or 5 days transfer...
I'm quite excited!
But hey, I don't wanna project too much, last time I didn't make it to the transfer, so let's see how it goes this time...
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13-03-2016 12:20 #460
Hey cycle buddies @LillyM and @tjuls - you ladies are ahead of me. My AF is not due until tomorrow and it doesn't feel like she is going to arrive on time! I don't feel pre-men much yet. SIGH.... more waiting. But I agree that the next month or so is going to be exciting for us all.
@RainbowLorikeet - how are things with you? Started the Crinone?
I totally forgot to ask the FS about Crinone in the lead up to my FET. She didn't mention any meds etc. I will probably ask the nurse when I get to my BT.
@SL1009, when is your next BT? Hope you are enjoying the PUPO! I think overall, the docs and nurses are quite personable and helpful. They have been so nice with questions, us pestering them, etc. But they are not very good with "bad news" in that sense. Very clinical and not very sympathetic mostly.
@StephyG, are you back to QL already? I so agree with the other ladies here. I am so looking forward to you coming back to the clinic and giving them the "in-the-face-there-you-go" look with your striking new health and weight status. Let us know how things go. I am sure you will nail this very quickly once you speak to your GP and seek advice for an achievable plan. Most important thing is to be healthy!
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