March 2016 TTC

[MusicalMumma]

Hi @MusicalMumma been feeling like af is coming too, quite achey in my lower back too, have a feeling she will show early. I tested with a frer this morning too and BFN

Been pretty upset all day about it, I'm just so scared when I go to the doctors to see if I can have testing done that they are going to turn me away like the others did I really wanted to not have to go that route.

I'm sorry about your BFN as well

You're only 6mths in from memory aren't you? It's still early days... Although, having said that, I just had this gut feeling and started fertility testing for hubby at 6mths and myself at 9. My doctor was also reluctant but I think I'd made so many appointments and it was evident I'd dr googled myself out that she finally relented! Haha

It's ok to feel sad about it all. I find I do every month, damn hormones. But, as they say, it's not over til the witch shows. So fx that she doesn't visit us this month!!

[ladyr]

Thanks muchly for all the advice re: vitex, I really appreciate it. I've just bought some Royal Jelly today (fresh form taken by the teaspoon) to add to the mix so if no luck I'll move onto the vitex. The only thing that made me question its purpose was I thought I remembered reading years ago it can assist with lengthening the luteal phase which is slightly short in my case..

[brodiesmummy2011]

You're only 6mths in from memory aren't you? It's still early days... Although, having said that, I just had this gut feeling and started fertility testing for hubby at 6mths and myself at 9. My doctor was also reluctant but I think I'd made so many appointments and it was evident I'd dr googled myself out that she finally relented! Haha

It's ok to feel sad about it all. I find I do every month, damn hormones. But, as they say, it's not over til the witch shows. So fx that she doesn't visit us this month!!

Yup only 6 months, I know I probably shouldn't be complaining, some people have been at it alot longer, eg: yourself. I guess after my son being a one hit wonder, I'm now seriously concerned something is wrong.

Oh wow really?? Haha, I'm hoping the new doctors I'm going to try will be willing to help

Was your doctor hesitant at 9 months?

[MusicalMumma]

Yup only 6 months, I know I probably shouldn't be complaining, some people have been at it alot longer, eg: yourself. I guess after my son being a one hit wonder, I'm now seriously concerned something is wrong.

Oh wow really?? Haha, I'm hoping the new doctors I'm going to try will be willing to help

Was your doctor hesitant at 9 months?

It was evident to me that I needed to be referred to a FS because when I was chatting to her about spotting/short lps/low progesterone etc she only had a vague idea what I was talking about and kept saying "maybe it's just timing" I felt like screaming at her, "don't you know by now I'm a control freak who temps, OPKs and times BD perfectly" lol I knew we were timing things right. So she relented...

Just be up front about your concerns and desire to be tested. Reality is that the testing takes months anyway so by the time u get treatment you're likely to be at 9-12mths anyway.

[brodiesmummy2011]

It was evident to me that I needed to be referred to a FS because when I was chatting to her about spotting/short lps/low progesterone etc she only had a vague idea what I was talking about and kept saying "maybe it's just timing" I felt like screaming at her, "don't you know by now I'm a control freak who temps, OPKs and times BD perfectly" lol I knew we were timing things right. So she relented...

Just be up front about your concerns and desire to be tested. Reality is that the testing takes months anyway so by the time u get treatment you're likely to be at 9-12mths anyway.

Ahh yes, I've been told hormone testing is only for women over 40, been told that I basically imagined my chemical pregnancies, and that HPT's don't work, like wtf?

When you say fertility specialist, do you mean a gynaecologist?

They are sticklers here for trying for 12 months before seeking help, so I'm going to say we have been trying longer than we have.

[WinterJade]

You're only 6mths in from memory aren't you? It's still early days... Although, having said that, I just had this gut feeling and started fertility testing for hubby at 6mths and myself at 9. My doctor was also reluctant but I think I'd made so many appointments and it was evident I'd dr googled myself out that she finally relented! Haha

It's ok to feel sad about it all. I find I do every month, damn hormones. But, as they say, it's not over til the witch shows. So fx that she doesn't visit us this month!!

I don't think the doctors have the right to say that you can't explore your options early. My best friend is at the top of the IVF profession and she said to me that you definitely don't have to wait any specified time to get tested. She has told me to come and see her if I don't fall pg after 3 trys. Her view is, why waste time, just find out if you're ok or not. Just test and then if you're ok, keep trying naturally but if you're not then you can make an informed call. She thinks that heaps of women leave it too long and perhaps may have had a easier journey/more options if they looked into it earlier. Not sure if that is what you are specifically talking about but I think @MusicalMumma is right. If you're worried, get tested and then you can put it out of your mind. I was tested at 28 and was on the low end of normal for my age. I am now 33 so will wait maximum 6 trys before I'm seeing her about it. Hope this helps!
@brodiesmumma2011 you're in Adelaide right. Just call Repromed and tell them you want to get tested. I am pretty sure another friend of mine did that with no referral. Or else PM me and we can chat offline.

[brodiesmummy2011]

I don't think the doctors have the right to say that you can't explore your options early. My best friend is at the top of the IVF profession and she said to me that you definitely don't have to wait any specified time to get tested. She has told me to come and see her if I don't fall pg after 3 trys. Her view is, why waste time, just find out if you're ok or not. Just test and then if you're ok, keep trying naturally but if you're not then you can make an informed call. She thinks that heaps of women leave it too long and perhaps may have had a easier journey/more options if they looked into it earlier. Not sure if that is what you are specifically talking about but I think @MusicalMumma is right. If you're worried, get tested and then you can put it out of your mind. I was tested at 28 and was on the low end of normal for my age. I am now 33 so will wait maximum 6 trys before I'm seeing her about it. Hope this helps!

Thanks @WinterJade which ivf clinic does she work at?

I'm not sure how to go about it? My local gp - haven't been there yet have a consulting gynae there, so that was going to be my first stop.

And thank you that makes me feel better, maybe its just gp's who prefer you wait.

What sort of testing do you suggest?

[MusicalMumma]

I don't think the doctors have the right to say that you can't explore your options early. My best friend is at the top of the IVF profession and she said to me that you definitely don't have to wait any specified time to get tested. She has told me to come and see her if I don't fall pg after 3 trys. Her view is, why waste time, just find out if you're ok or not. Just test and then if you're ok, keep trying naturally but if you're not then you can make an informed call. She thinks that heaps of women leave it too long and perhaps may have had a easier journey/more options if they looked into it earlier. Not sure if that is what you are specifically talking about but I think @MusicalMumma is right. If you're worried, get tested and then you can put it out of your mind. I was tested at 28 and was on the low end of normal for my age. I am now 33 so will wait maximum 6 trys before I'm seeing her about it. Hope this helps!
@brodiesmumma2011 you're in Adelaide right. Just call Repromed and tell them you want to get tested. I am pretty sure another friend of mine did that with no referral. Or else PM me and we can chat offline.

Totally agree @WinterJade. We found out DH had a low motility but everything else came back clear so continued trying for another 6mths. Had there been a bigger issue we would have been in a better position to deal with it early on. In retrospect I wish we'd bitten the bullet even sooner.

[Lozz90]

Can I join here please? Don't know my exact date to test but about 21st

[brodiesmummy2011]

Totally agree @WinterJade. We found out DH had a low motility but everything else came back clear so continued trying for another 6mths. Had there been a bigger issue we would have been in a better position to deal with it early on. In retrospect I wish we'd bitten the bullet even sooner.

Thanks hun!