Hello, I'm new to IVF.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for two years. He has <1mil sperm count and low motility. We had a consultation at Melbourne IVF recently, our options are IVF ICSI (though expectations are 35% success rate) or a donor.
I feel overwhelmed as as soon as we got the results options we had a consult giving us paperwork to get police checks, documents and pamphlets of hormones and injections.
Really not sure I’m convinced that IVF is for me, it seems so daunting and not a really high success rate to me.
I'm curious to know what things you wish someone had told you about IVF, you, your body/health (the hormones / injections are kind of scaring me) relationship etc. before you started.
Good, bad or otherwise, what are your IVF tips?
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28-01-2016 09:33 #1
New to IVF
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28-01-2016 10:07 #2
IVF is a massively daunting task and everyone's experience varies so it's hard to know where to start when explaining it to someone. It's definitely a journey that can be full of heartache for some whilst others have their dream fulfilled. You will have to be absolutely positive you want to go down that road, loads of IVF threads on bubhub and loads of supportive women on them so feel free to start picking brains and asking questions but just don't overwhelm yourself in the process. 😊
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28-01-2016 10:21 #3
As someone who has gone down the IVF path and is currently pregnant with my first I think it's really important that your prepared to try for a long haul
You hear all the stories about first time success but trust me they are just the lucky ones
Be prepared for at least 3 full stim cycles and all subsequent FET's mentally and also very important to be prepared for the emotional rollercoaster!! the fights and crying are extreme
make sure your DH is prepared for this too because he will bear the brunt.
If it's what you really what you want then the injections and scans and appts are nothing to get to the end result of a beautiful healthy baby
Do accupunture! It's so worth it
Drink a wine occasionally (or your preference) only before transfer of course!
Cry if you need to, you can't always hold it together
Dnt obsess over forums and symptoms honestly that will drive you the most crazy
Good luck stay calm and always love yourself
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28-01-2016 12:20 #4
I'm in the middle of my first IVF cycle right now It does all seem very daunting doesn't it? And I was the same when they gave us the statistics - it hardly seemed worth trying to me!
I was really worried about all the stories I have heard about people's mood swings while on the injections etc, and doing the actual injections themselves, but everyone's experience is different. And from what I've seen, some people's experience can be different from cycle to cycle.
I bought numbing cream to put on before I do the injections, which means they've been a breeze. And, after a few initial days of feeling really tired, I actually feel fantastic on the injections. Strangely, I feel incredibly happy, I'm not having anywhere near the mood swings I would normally have in a normal cycle and I'm not experiencing any bloating to speak of. All my blood work and ultrasounds show everything progressing as it should, so maybe I'm just lucky, or maybe my hormones were already so screwed that my body is happy about being forced to do what it's meant to do!
We are approaching out first round with the mindset that it won't result in a BFP. We are looking at it as a "research" round. I have a few health conditions, and DH's SA isn't amazing, but mostly, we have unexplained infertility. So I'm hoping the first round might give us some info as to where it all might be going wrong.
DH and I have discussed our expectations of IVF, how far we're willing to go with it, and the realities of maybe facing a life without children in it. That was really important to me to make sure we both knew how each other felt about it and come to an agreement about how long we would try this for.
I researched a lot about IVF before we started down the path so that I am having a minimal amount of surprises along the way as far as what I need to do, how many appointments I need to have, what will happen at those appointments etc. Some of the things I thought would really bother me haven't at all, but I'm the type of person who is usually ok with stuff as long as I'm armed with the information!
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28-01-2016 13:07 #5
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Breathe. Drink plenty of water. Gentle exercise. There are great threads on here for people who are doing it secretly, or there's no one you can talk to about what you're feeling. Good luck
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28-01-2016 21:30 #6
35% sounds like it's worth a shot. My advice would be to do it soon, fertility rates drop off at an alarming rate and if you want siblings, some in the freezer would be nice. Also to consider low cost clinics along with private.
Cost is a huge added stress, so budget for a few cycles.
Don't be scared to change clinics, it is part of their business and a good FS will totally understand the need for a second opinion and approach.
I didn't find the first two cycles a problem at all, it's the repeated failures that get to you. The long haul is what is very difficult. You never know you may get it first or second go.
I haven't found the hormone injections to be a problem, you may not be affected very much by them. I have found immune meds to be horrible but they are usually prescribed as a last resort. And I did get duffed so it is worth it.
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28-01-2016 21:52 #7
I think you need to be ready to do IVF- you may not be there yet, you may not get there. As in, you need to be at a point where you are willing to accept all the risks- injections, time, costs, retrieval and transfers etc for the 35% chance.
To me, 35% sounds about right in terms of chance of pregnancy per cycle- I think I had about the same odds with no known issues.
Have a think about what you want to do- the paperwork and IVF is not going anywhere. Im not sure of your age but that might be something to take into consideration. You can also have a few appointments with different specialists to see which FS and clinic suits you best. One size does not fit all, and you will be spending a lot of time and money with your FS and clinic, its important to get the right one for you and your DH.
What I wish I had known at the start:
-It probably won't work first go. You'll tell yourself this, but secretly in the back of your mind you think it will work. And if it doesn't, it will really knock you for six. I thought I didn't really 'need' IVF- that it was just bad luck that 3 IUIs hadn't worked. Im currently 32w following transfer #4, IUI would never have worked.
- Drink lots of water
- Dont compare your numbers/dosage/fert rates with others. They aren't an indicator of later success
- Do research but embrace the fact you can't control the ultimate outcome
- The injections aren't as bad as you would think
- Some people have no reaction to the meds- if anything they made me calmer
- If you do go ahead, do something for yourself to take time out. Acupuncture is good, and make sure your treat activity is easy to do and not stressful. For example, my acupuncture place doesn't care if you're running late- they will just swap your appointment around with someone else. For me, the last thing I needed was one more fixed appointment that I had to stress over. They were lovely about this and said the most important thing was for me not to be worried.
Hope this helps and Good luck
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