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    Default Court ordered custody

    Just wanted to ask any single mummas here who have been to court for custody arrangements.
    Have any had overnight stays awarded to the non primary caregiver for a child of 2?
    The ex is apparently about to about to start proceedings to take me to court.
    I'm aware that current recommendations to he family law courts are for no overnights until 3-4yrs but just wondering if the courts are awarding based on current literature or not.
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    I've got a gf that has 2 kids now 4 & 2.5yo and they've just started overnights. Every second sat am to sun PM. Next year it's from Fri PM to Mon AM every second weekend.

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    A court may order overnights if there is a bit of distance or an older sibling goes,
    Court won't happen without mediation etc and there wont be overnights ordered If the other party hasn't had consistent access.

    If you've not even had mediation yet you've got a good 6-12 months before it is even looking at being sorted

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    We've had mediation.

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    Sorry not a single mum but has he spent lots of time with your little one (you have a boy don't you?) one-on-one? Are you still BF? Does he live far away? How many days/overnights does he want? Also what do you ultimately feel comfortable with right now?

    I would think they take it on a case by case basis. Dependant on the child, the amount of time the non primary carer has had with the child and also any impact it may have on the child.

    I would hope that at that young age overnights would not be awarded. My boy is not quire 3 and he would not cope sleeping elsewhere yet.

    I am so sorry that you are going through this.

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    I think it's a case by case thing, as PP said. If I separated from my DH I wouldn't have a problem with him having overnights with my 2 year old because he has always done bedtime with him and spends a lot of time with him. He is his carer as much as me.
    But if you're in a situation where your ex hasn't spend much time with your son I can understand why you wouldn't want to jump straight into overnights and I'm sure no court would allow it if they don't already have a close bond.


 

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