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    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    Too exciting @Caesardust!!! Are they day 5 blasts?
    I believe they are both day 6 which worries me plus they didn't look as expanded as they should've been. The FS kept saying with these being our last embies we should do Pgd next time as there was no point going on transferring without it. I know that but it made me think he thought they weren't going to make it. I might be overthinking it. Dp didn't think there was an issue. I also asked if he thought they looked OK and he explained the thawing process and that they hope they expand further and hatch once in their natural environment. I'm very very nervous but trying to be cool as a cucumber.

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    Cool cucumber - did they give you a pic?

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    I'm sure they're fine Caesardust. I think it depends on how early (before the transfer) they unfroze them. day 6 would mean starting to hatch? so they probably wouldn't look like day5s I think. they're puffing up nicely inside you now, I bet. let's hope they hold hands and help each other burrow in

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    Cool cucumber - did they give you a pic?
    No I didn't bother with a pic this time. Feel like all the excitement and joy has gone from the process now. I just want to get it done and get out of there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caesardust View Post
    I believe they are both day 6 which worries me plus they didn't look as expanded as they should've been. The FS kept saying with these being our last embies we should do Pgd next time as there was no point going on transferring without it. I know that but it made me think he thought they weren't going to make it. I might be overthinking it. Dp didn't think there was an issue. I also asked if he thought they looked OK and he explained the thawing process and that they hope they expand further and hatch once in their natural environment. I'm very very nervous but trying to be cool as a cucumber.
    @Caesardust They're all shrunk up from the freezing aren't they, they suck all the water out to freeze? I got warned with each FET that they would look a bit odd. Incy was the worst.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossom74 View Post
    That is REALLY interesting. I had never considered that some egg donors might indeed be looking for a surrogate for themselves, rather than being altruistic in donating their eggs. Which is sort of the point you're getting at, I think? So a case of "Well, I have all the eggs in the world but I will insist on seeing the child periodically etc...."

    I can't believe I never thought of that. Still, I suppose that's nothing a good legal document couldn't fix
    I think that is what the counselling hopefully flushes out. I can imagine a young woman whose partner doesn't want kids, thinking somebody may as well use her eggs, but in 10-15 years time that could be hard. I know a number of women who have thought they could sacrifice kids, then at age 40 realised they couldn't... I also think that is a key reason they want donors to have had kids (as well as the proven fertility aspect and risks to future fertility). I also have older friends who have never wanted kids and never had regrets, who would have made great donors.

    A legal document will only work until the kids are 18. So whilst counselling is time consuming and potentially may identify a poor donor-recipient fit, it's really important to clarify roles and expectations.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Green lady View Post
    @Gagingi - that's good to know. My FS said he wouldn't recommend dhea " for me" but I am not sure why. Because I've been using menopur which has the lh in it I want to find out my testosterone level to know whether I should in fact be using it. I don't think I have higher testosterone but how do I know without a test, as not everyone would have symptoms. I am hoping I was tested as part of my full bloods before I started IVF and it was a normal level.
    Wazza has me taking Menopur, alternating with Gonal-F and I've done much better on that than pure Gonal-F, in terms of quality. My GP was quite stunned when I got diagnosed with PCOS at 40 as I don't have a lot of symptoms, but I do have a few chin hairs I'm forever plucking and I'd say that is from high testosterone...

    When are your PGD results due? How are you traveling?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gagingi View Post
    I think that is what the counselling hopefully flushes out. I can imagine a young woman whose partner doesn't want kids, thinking somebody may as well use her eggs, but in 10-15 years time that could be hard. I know a number of women who have thought they could sacrifice kids, then at age 40 realised they couldn't... I also think that is a key reason they want donors to have had kids (as well as the proven fertility aspect and risks to future fertility). I also have older friends who have never wanted kids and never had regrets, who would have made great donors.

    A legal document will only work until the kids are 18. So whilst counselling is time consuming and potentially may identify a poor donor-recipient fit, it's really important to clarify roles and expectations.
    My donor doesn't have/want to have kids. It really is about finding the right person for you which can be difficult when we are in such a desperate rush and the donors choose us. It's a minefield really but I do trust my donors judgement and we discussed it in counseling.

    Once the sperm and eggs have mixed the recipients have complete ownership of the embryos. So any legal document I would have thought would be for the donors benefit as all the rights are in the recipients hands from then on. The only thing is, you can't on donate any spare frozen embryos as the number of families donors can donate to is limited. So they'd have to be stored or destroyed or donated to science (which Genea told me that they have too many already)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bongley View Post
    @Summer I was good with all that until the last line! It does sound like a horrendous amount of pressure on you both. Just terrible timing for all these things to be happening at once but you aren't in the position of being able to wait
    Going back to your last line, do you think your relationship is on the rocks??
    Quote Originally Posted by winsor View Post
    Summer, it sounds really stressful. I hope things settle soon for you both. yeah it's prob best to get things organized and tell him the plan so he knows it's all under control and what parts & when he needs to do his bits. so it's one less thing he needs to worry about
    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    @Summer Jeez talk about being under pressure hun. @winsor's advice sounds really sound to me. Gosh I wish we could share a glass of wine with you. I thought things must have become challenging for you as you'd gone really quiet. Do you have another counseling session booked? Does he have an avenue for getting his stress out?
    And btw, if you separate, there's DS, but of course that won't fix any heartbreak. Huuge hugs.
    I don't want to think that we could be on the rocks, but some of DH's behaviour is not OK and the pressure he's under and his reactions are badly affecting our relationship. So all will be OK if he can find ways to manage his emotions better, but if he's not willing to do some work on himself (more counseling, different business strategies etc) then the relationship is going to keep deteriorating until it implodes. There's only so much one person can do if the other person isn't willing to put in. To date he hasn't had a history of this behaviour, so hopefully it's just been overwhelm, pressure and grief and he'll find a way out of it and we can move forward. At the moment I'm just trying to put my own personal feelings aside and be supportive for him and see where we get to. I am seeing my counselor on Friday, so once I see her I'll approach DH about having another session together next week.

    And I do want to do one or two more cycles just to put my mind at rest that I did do everything possible with my OE. So I think rather than any big discussions, I'll just present the facts to DH without a lot of emotion and just say this is what I want to do, this is the time frame, these are the costs and then it ends because I'll be 45, but I want that opportunity. I can't see him saying no to that, especially as I normally don't produce any more than one egg so it doesn't even get to EPU so our chances of getting two or three are slim.

    If we did split I'm not sure whether I'd go the DE/DS single mother path, I guess I could only tell that once I was in that situation and had my life settled again. But I could see myself living out the song "All I want to do is make love to you" - remember that cheesy one where she had a one night stand with a hot guy purposely to fall pregnant?? LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gagingi View Post
    Wazza has me taking Menopur, alternating with Gonal-F and I've done much better on that than pure Gonal-F, in terms of quality. My GP was quite stunned when I got diagnosed with PCOS at 40 as I don't have a lot of symptoms, but I do have a few chin hairs I'm forever plucking and I'd say that is from high testosterone...

    When are your PGD results due? How are you traveling?
    @Gagingi - my first cycle was pure Gonal f which produced 19 eggs, 17 mature but only 7 fertilised as the rest ' disintegrated' with the ICSI. Given that I've not been keen to do Gonal f again which is why my FS switched me to menopur which I suppose at least has increased my fertilisation rate with the best rate being at 300 does rather than the 225 I was on previously. Still I only got 3 blasts from 12 fertilised and only two of those could be biopsied. If I decide to do another cycle I intend to ask about the alternating Gonal f and menopur option or even Gonal f plus luveris which means you can control the lh dose component.

    PGD results are due 12 Feb. I decided not to run around having scans and blood tests to prep for a transfer as I have done this twice which I find just adds false hope and adds to the devastation of getting an abnormal result. I will just wait on the results and if both are abnormal ( again) I will get some information on my two day 6 frozen ones and an opinion from my FS as to whether I should transfer one of them or do one more cycle before I turn 43 in June.

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