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    Quote Originally Posted by Jontu View Post
    Yes but aren't there also older kids who are not ready for the classroom environment?
    Does it not mean anything that I had 2 daycare teachers tell me ds is ready, able to listen to instruction, pay attention during story time, already knows his alphabet and numbers etc?
    It's not only based on academics but also socially and emotionally.

    Look it is ultimately up to you. But just think about it.... if your son is asked to repeat or struggles in school.... will you repeat him?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    It's not only based on academics but also socially and emotionally.

    Look it is ultimately up to you. But just think about it.... if your son is asked to repeat or struggles in school.... will you repeat him?
    I gave examples of him being socially and emotionally ready in my previous posts. Just didn't think i needed to repeat it again.
    Teacher said he is able to make friends with other kids, when he knows the older kids are breaking the rules he knows to walk away and not join in, he is able to verbalize when he is upset rather than internalize.

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    If he is asked to repeat then I woukd need to know the reason why before I can give a definite answer.
    It may come across that all I am concerned about is academic but that is not the case at all. From a person who excelled academically at school I know that life is about more than that. All I want for my son is to find something that brings him joy, whether or not he is top of the class I don't care.

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    When my oldest was starting school we went 'school shopping' as we were moving. My oldest had just turned 4. All of the principals we met commented on how 'school ready' our 4 year old was. Didn't mean that I should have sent my child to school as a 4 year old, though, and that's not what they were suggesting, either. Being able to do things to make them 'beginning of kindergarten ready' doesn't mean that that 12-18 month age difference won't cause an issue over time. My concern with a 4.5 year old going to school is socially more than academically...not in kindergarten, but as the years progress. I know my two children that are 21 months apart played together beautifully for the first few years of their lives, but as they got older the age differences became more apparent. There's no way I'd consider putting them in a class together, and expect them to be able to do the same school work, either. No way. I know 21 months is an extra three months on 18 months, but it's essentially what's being asked of a 4.5 year old going to school...to be able to keep up with children 12-18 months older than them for the rest of their schooling life. It's a big ask.

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    My dd2 is turning 4 in June. If she was in qld she would be eligible for kindy/preschool this year. But here in Canberra she can't start till next year.

    Whereas I know several people that started their June/July babies when in all honesty they shouldn't have. Even I can tell they weren't ready. But somehow the msg didn't get thru from the kindy teacher.

    My SIL and cousin in law are both preschool/early primary teachers. Both have kids born in April. Both are waiting till the next year to send them.

    Also I found kindy/preschool teachers far better at assessing kids than child care workers.

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    But please let's not forget that not all kids will be 12 m older. There will be some born Jan - mar whose parents will start them before they are 5 and therefore less than 6m gap.
    Those born at the end of the year will also be less than 12m difference.

    And people keep saying I am focusing on academics but the examples of how they struggle against older kids is around how they are able to learn, the classroom environment etc.

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    OP you mentioned in your OP that you might be questioning your decision? I didn't see the 60 minutes program what were they saying about it? I must say I'm glad DS was born in October !

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    Edit: meant to quote Elijahs Mum.

    What made me question my decision was when the principal that was interviewed said that the age difference could be problematic because the older kids will tend to outperform the younger ones and this carries on throughout the years. Older kids would also have the advantage with sports. And then the younger ones not being able to join certain activities because they are underage. So the message I got from that was not so much the age that was the issue it was the age gap.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jontu View Post
    But please let's not forget that not all kids will be 12 m older. There will be some born Jan - mar whose parents will start them before they are 5 and therefore less than 6m gap.
    Those born at the end of the year will also be less than 12m difference.

    And people keep saying I am focusing on academics but the examples of how they struggle against older kids is around how they are able to learn, the classroom environment etc.
    Yes, you're right re the age. However, my November born child is the 5th youngest in the year. One child is three days younger, and the youngest children are March babies. I'm good friends with one of those kids mum's and she has said how she wishes she waited, because her daughter doesn't cope with things as well as the other kids. The difference in maturity didn't come until year 2, but it's there...and it's still there, and there are issues surrounding it (she has friends, it's more to do with how she behaves to try and fit in with the older kids).
    None of my children are in classes with kids that are born in July and started at 4.5 years. The youngest in ALL of their classes are March babies, so at best you're (potentially, based on my experience) looking at a 4 month age gap between your son and the second youngest kid in the class. And that's the youngest, not all of them. Most of them will sit somewhere between 6-12 months older. I struggle to understand the rush (if daycare fees are taken out of the equation), when that extra year at home would put your son nicely in the middle of the class age wise. But...your child, your choice of course.
    You could ask how many kids are 4 turning 5 in kindergarten this year at your school, and gauge where your DS will sit a bit better?
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    Default Parents with kids starting school at less than 5yo

    Chiming in late but have been reading along.

    My eldest child started school before 5 as an April baby. I was uncertain but had no choice as his commencement at school was court ordered - care of his dad (who didn't want to pay Childcare fees on his days with him!).

    His age and especially his social maturity (or immaturity really) followed him through until he finished school. He hit puberty later than the other boys, so didn't get his growth spurt until mid year 11. He wasn't able to play sport with his school mates as they were all in the grade above him. When the other boys were all girl mad he was clueless. By the time he caught up he was embarrassed by the fact he's never had a girlfriend.

    I would always wait based on my personal experience.

    Edit - I would say with all honesty he is really only now hitting his stride socially at almost 21. It has taken him years to get over being out of step with his peers.
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