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    Default Brother diagnosed with cancer of the lungs, liver & lymph nodes.

    Hi all, we have just been told my brother has cancer of the lung, liver & lymph nodes. He's seeing an oncologist this week for a clearer prognosis. I saw him today & he was in so much pain he could hardly move. He can't even get himself out of bed or shower himself. He has lost a lot of weight & has become skin & bones. He isn't eating or drinking much as he has no appetite. Does anyone have any experience with these cancers? What we could expect. We saw him on Christmas Day & he didn't look well but we (& him) had no idea this was going on. His main symptom was severe back pain. He is 53 years old. I'm heartbroken. Thanks in advance.
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    Mega hugs.

    I wish I could help hun. Sorry I don't know anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    Mega hugs.

    I wish I could help hun. Sorry I don't know anything.
    Thanks, I think it just helps to share it too. I can't sleep for the 2nd night in a row. He has suffered so much in his life- losing his 10 week old daughter to SIDS. He just doesn't deserve any more pain or suffering.

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    I'm so sorry, what heartbreaking news to receive. I am a cancer nurse and the best advice I think I could give without knowing anything about your brother or his prognosis would be to seek out a palliative care referral. Pal care are an amazing and incredibly supportive team for the patient and their family. They focus on quality of life and pain management and I think these two areas are so important in cancer care. Cancer can be incredibly painful but a good pain management plan can make a huge difference to patient quality of life.

    Hugs. Life is just crappy cruel and unfair sometimes.

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    I am so sorry you and your family have to experience this big hugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A&S View Post
    I'm so sorry, what heartbreaking news to receive. I am a cancer nurse and the best advice I think I could give without knowing anything about your brother or his prognosis would be to seek out a palliative care referral. Pal care are an amazing and incredibly supportive team for the patient and their family. They focus on quality of life and pain management and I think these two areas are so important in cancer care. Cancer can be incredibly painful but a good pain management plan can make a huge difference to patient quality of life.

    Hugs. Life is just crappy cruel and unfair sometimes.
    Thanks for the support. A & S does the pal care team come to your own home or is it in hospital? When my dad was dying he was getting pal care at hospital. Thanks.

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    My dad had a similar diagnosis. He worked in a manual labour type of job and just put his back pain down to that. It wasn't until he got bronchitis that we were finally able to drag him to the doctors and he was diagnosed with lung cancer after that. He also had it in his lymph nodes and around his heart. It's such a stressful time and feels like forever to get proper answers and a treatment plan.

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    Sending you hugs. I have no advice but am going through simular. BIL has advanced prostate cancer, pancreatic cancer and bone cancer in pelvis, groin and spine. He will be lucky to have a few years. He was only recently diagnosed.

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    I'm not too sure, it would depend on the services run through your hospital. I would think not though, unless it was specifically for end of life care. It's definitely worth speaking to the nurses looking after your brother though.

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    So many hugs hon

    I'm so sorry to hear this. What a scary time for all of you, especially your poor brother.

    I hope you get some answers. The initial shock of the diagnosis must be incredibly daunting

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