the questions being asked are ones that are perhaps being posed to get the OP to ask herself.
and I disagree with codependency as victim blaming.
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20-02-2016 21:44 #273
I am a child from an abusive marriage. My mother was with my father for 18 years before she finally couldn't take any more physical or mental abuse. The divorce was messy too. I'm 38 now, they divorced when i was 10...it stays with you as a child through to adulthood, believe me. I really do sympathise for the OP, i really do but l also sympathise for the little kids OP, I really do hope you find the courage.
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20-02-2016 21:47 #274
I have posted sensitive information in forums before at a time when I was not a good headspace. Any slightly negative comment no matter how well intentioned had me in tears. I would hate for the OP to perceive she isn't getting the support she needs and stop posting.
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20-02-2016 21:52 #275
as another poster said, sitting around issuing hugs is going to work up to a point. my posts were to try and pose questions, as an uninvested outsider, for the OP to ask herself. to try and get clarity or maybe see things for herself that she is unable to realise in her current cycle of thinking.
I'm appalled at the insinuation that my posts are coming from any place other than of compassion and support. what you're suggesting is macabre, that I would sit here and post unkind things to hurt the OP further. I don't know the OP from a bar of soap, what personal gain do I stand to derive from her being upset any further?
just because I took a slightly different tack and don't think sitting around holding hands and being fuzzy is the way to go does not make me someone who is unhelpful or lacking in compassion. get off your moral high horse.
20-02-2016 21:57 #276Senior Member
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OP I'm just popping in to say that my parents split when I was an adult. We all know that it should have happened earlier but they stayed together till all the kids left home.
If you leave your partner you may struggle and your kids may whinge and ***** but in the long run it will be for the best.
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20-02-2016 22:11 #277
well that's my forum experience anyway.
nobody is sitting here twisting the knife or attempting to make a bad situation worse for the OP.
20-02-2016 22:23 #278
I'm hoping the OP checks in soon as she is in a highly volatile situation and I'm worried for her
21-02-2016 04:42 #279Senior Member
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@turquoisecoast, there was nothing in my post that mentioned you or any of your previous posts. I am simply saying we need to provide support.
I am not ignorant or dissmissive and find it rude that you would directly suggest that from my post.
Back to supporting the OP thanks.
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21-02-2016 11:20 #280Senior Member
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