OP you have been unhappy for years now. Almost every post you make screams this. And all at the hands of your husband.
I hope you find the strength required to leave. Don't let this beat you.
- Coming from someone who stayed unhappy way too long. I know your inner dialogue and I know how feeling stuck sucks the absolute life out of you.
You are stronger than you know.
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19-01-2016 22:15 #11
19-01-2016 22:33 #12
.I have had an awful couple of years... separation and suicide. Not fun... I'm not good at being open with people in my life so I found counseling categorically amazing. Someone to talk to, who listens without judgment and helps you find your way through.
Go to the GP and get a mental health plan. I have found that the community based counselors are best...my "real-life", less psychology.
I am just about go back to my GP for a new plan as I'm struggling. I am also going to restart on anti - depressants...they just help lift the cloud for a bit and think a bit more clearly and rationally.
19-01-2016 22:34 #13
I am so so scared and alone and he has now found himself in a position after all these years earning a good wage and rubs this in my face constantly saying that he will be able to spoil the kids and do alot more with them than I ever could when we split before ...I know what a broken home dose to kids and it breaks my heart that I have brought them into this life that we live I hate myself so much for it ...
19-01-2016 22:40 #14
It's not too late to take yourself and your kids out of the picture. It's never too late to start over.
Don't beat yourself up for what he has subjected your children to. You are the victim, not the creator of the broken home.
I STRONGLY recommend you call a women's DV helpline (it doesn't have to be physical)...they will guide you.
19-01-2016 22:42 #15
19-01-2016 22:43 #16
Yes, living in a happy home where both parents have a loving and respectful relationship is on average best for children. However, children experiencing their parents divorce is way better than them living in a home where both parents are fighting (or as I suspect in your case one parent is at the very least emotionally abusing the other).
ETA I can guarantee that the kids are picking up on the tension in your marriage, even if you think they don't know, they do. Your home is already broken.
I hope you find the strength to change your situation.
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19-01-2016 22:47 #17
I know that if I walked out tomorrow he wouldn't care he could live the life he wants he would be rubbing his hands together in excitement thinking of all the drinking and gambling he could do and not have to pay so much rent as we do now ...he could be at the club every night ....would bother him in the slightest
19-01-2016 22:49 #18
The kids will soon work out who the most stable parent is.
ETA I hope I'm not coming across as harsh. The reality is that if you do split, his actions will not longer be of your concern. However, if he goes on drinking and gambling binges, I would be taking that into account when working out child custody ie it would mean they would be seeing him less possibly under supervision.
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19-01-2016 22:52 #19
I know that last time we split his work hid his bonuses in another account for him ...his bonus are monthly if he reaches budget and they can be up to a few thousand at a time ...he pockets than to him self now ...
19-01-2016 22:53 #20
Our 3 eldest kids can't stand him now and know what he does and has done ...
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