+ Reply to Thread
Page 6 of 7 FirstFirst ... 4567 LastLast
Results 51 to 60 of 63
  1. #51
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    9,032
    Thanks
    37,046
    Thanked
    20,402
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the WeekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 20/8/15100 Posts in a week - week ended 13/8/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 6/8/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 30/7/15
    Yep...there's no justifiable excuse why they don't have a car seat.

    They've lived here long enough, would've seen car seats in your car & other peoples when out driving, shopping centre carparks etc. Been told/given pamphlets about it at the hospital while still pregnant/before being discharged after the baby was born.

    It's irresponsible & negligent of them & I couldn't give two sh!ts what their excuse for not having one is. Nor should the fact that they're family stop you doing what's right.

    Your responsibility is to that child not their parents. Report them to the police asap. I would!!

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to BlondeinBrisvegas For This Useful Post:

    A-Squared  (19-01-2016)

  3. #52
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Posts
    22,019
    Thanks
    15,407
    Thanked
    11,609
    Reviews
    14
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the WeekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 5/2/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 31/10/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 24/10/14Busiest Member of the Week
    Quote Originally Posted by zoz View Post
    Not putting a child in a car seat is selfish and ridiculous at 1 years of age unless there is a good reason, but I believe it's not your business to do anything about it unless you are close family and would pull them up on those kind of issues without them feeling offended or you feeling awkward then I wouldn't say anything.

    I wouldn't report it, maybe there is an issue of financial problems or a legitimate reason... Who knows they'll hopefully get pulled over by the police before someone gets hurt or something.
    What exactly do you think is a legitimate reason.

    I can't think of one.

    Not having a child in a car seat is not just selfish. It is dangerous. It deliberately putting your child in harms way. It a form of child abuse (neglect ).

    If you can't afford a seat. You can't afford to get in a car.

    I know what it is like to be flat broke. To live below poverty line. I would sacrifice whatever. Sell whatever to make sure child was safe. In fact I have done both (sacrificed and sold things)


    Let's weigh it up you feeling awkward and them getting offened and a child dying or becoming disabled.
    Last edited by LoveLivesHere; 18-01-2016 at 23:20.

  4. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to LoveLivesHere For This Useful Post:

    A-Squared  (19-01-2016),BlondeinBrisvegas  (18-01-2016)

  5. #53
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    939
    Thanks
    304
    Thanked
    210
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I just feel it's none of my business even if that child is in danger, I'd prefer not to interfere in other people's lives.

    That doesn't mean anyone else would do the same as me. Unless I was close to them I'd pull them up on it otherwise I'd leave it. It is a shame as it's a child but still not my business. I dunno people do worse. I wouldn't personally do it, a car seat is imperative but still none of my business.

    That doesn't mean you wouldn't do differently. I just wouldn't intervene.

  6. #54
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    9,032
    Thanks
    37,046
    Thanked
    20,402
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the WeekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 20/8/15100 Posts in a week - week ended 13/8/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 6/8/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 30/7/15
    @zoz You're entitled to your opinion too Luv.

  7. #55
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    939
    Thanks
    304
    Thanked
    210
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by cheeeeesecake View Post
    Sorry, but I don't really agree. The issue of child protection is everyone's resonsibility. If it were a meddling old woman ringing the police because she saw a kid running about without shoes on, or heard a mum shouting once, or something like that, it's different. But a child not restrained properly in a car is life and death. There is no excuse and no reason valid enough to fail to restrain your child correctly in a car. When I was doing child protection training, we were taught that you must ALWAYS look at it from the perspective of the impact, or potential impact, on the child, not on the perspective of the parent. It's normal as a mum to sympathise and think that maybe they have a reason. It doesn't matter. All that matters is the safety of the child. OP, make an anonymous report to the police.
    Just because you report them to an authority it doesn't mean they'll change anything. Thry migjt get into trouble but it may not make a lot of difference.

    I don't believe it is everyone's responsibility at all.

    I don't even sympathize I just believe it's no ones business but the parents even if that means life or death.

    Although I'd never go without car seats for my children. They probably should just not drive with a kid in the car or borrow one off someone or buy second hand. Still there's worse things. I guess they already know you just can't change some folk.

  8. #56
    harvs's Avatar
    harvs is offline Winner 2014 - Spirit of BubHub Award
    Winner 2016 - Member you'd most like to meet
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Posts
    10,212
    Thanks
    6,492
    Thanked
    16,559
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/4/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 2/4/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 19/3/15Busiest Member of the Week200 Posts in a week
    OP a possible way around it is to hire a car seat from Red Cross, take it round there, strongly explain your concerns and that you've done this for them to give them time to buy their own car seat.

  9. #57
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Posts
    371
    Thanks
    298
    Thanked
    188
    Reviews
    5
    The only reason my neighbour's 2 children are alive today is because they were in car seats. Her car rolled three times during an accident and the height of the seats prevented their heads hitting the roof.
    This whole situation terrifies me. I think I would report them. They know better, there's no excuse.

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to calicocat For This Useful Post:

    BlondeinBrisvegas  (19-01-2016)

  11. #58
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    8,395
    Thanks
    5,947
    Thanked
    4,952
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/4/15100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    OP a possible way around it is to hire a car seat from Red Cross, take it round there, strongly explain your concerns and that you've done this for them to give them time to buy their own car seat.
    I would anonymously report first, then when she tells you she got in trouble, then do this. If you do it the other way around and she doesn't use it, she will know it was you who reported her.

  12. #59
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Location
    Newcastle, NSW
    Posts
    3,963
    Thanks
    1,591
    Thanked
    1,311
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Agree with what most have posted, I would definitely report it! It's for the child's safety to be in the car seat.

  13. #60
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    1,357
    Thanks
    1,536
    Thanked
    1,017
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Awards:
    Bubhub Blogger
    Thanks for all the replies. Last night when DH got home I told him this whole situation was stressing me out and he said he felt the same so earlier in the day he had messaged the Dad to tell him that he noticed they don't have a car seat and that they really needed to get one as what they are currently doing is incredibly dangerous and illegal.

    He hasn't received a reply yet but I'm glad he said something and I think for now we'll leave it there. If we report now it'll be obvious that it's us and I think we've made ourselves clear, if they continue to be so irresponsible the possible consequences are on them.

  14. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Mama Mirabelle For This Useful Post:

    BabyG4  (19-01-2016),Tinkers  (19-01-2016)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Wwyd?
    By Maxwell's Silver Hammer in forum General Chat
    Replies: 39
    Last Post: 10-10-2015, 15:44
  2. Wwyd: giving up seat on bus
    By VicPark in forum General Chat
    Replies: 31
    Last Post: 01-10-2015, 15:43
  3. WWYD? Children of parents with mental health issues
    By Happy Camper in forum General depression and blues
    Replies: 29
    Last Post: 27-05-2015, 21:04

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
FEATURED SUPPORTER
ProSwimProSwim runs learn to swim classes for babies, children and adults. Our indoor centre in Plympton Park has lessons all ...
FORUMS - chatting now ...
Balancing work & therapies for your childGeneral Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
Help with BBT chartConception & Fertility General Chat
OhssIVF
❤Joyous June/July TTC!❤Conception & Fertility General Chat
Breast refusalBreastfeeding Support
REVIEWS
"Made bed time less anxious"
by Meld85
My Little Heart Whisbear - the Humming Bear reviews ›
"Wonderful natural Aussie made product!"
by Mrstwr
Baby U Goat Milk Moisturiser reviews ›
"Replaced good quality with cheap tight nappies"
by Kris
Coles Comfy Bots Nappies reviews ›