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    Default Overseas holiday or save $$ - WWYD?

    I would really love a sounding board here. DH & I are early 30s TTC baby #1. We have spent our 20s working and travelling every year all over the world (which we love). A few months ago my Mum & I talked about the possibility of doing a girls trip to the USA this year. We haven't travelled together in over a decade & we would have a great time.
    We're now at the point of discussing it again. Only she doesn't know we're TTC and I'm torn. The rational part of me says I should stay home & save, but on the other hand I don't know how long TTC may take & this may be the last opportunity I have for a mother-daughter trip like this in a long, long time.
    I have a great job and am the main income earner so I have the capacity to save a lot, but we will also need a fund set aside for when I go on maternity leave (I will get 10 weeks at full wage but would want to take about 10 months off).
    So, thoughts? It's really hard when you're secretly TTC - I can't ask friends & family for their input 😁

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    Go, enjoy yourself. Once you have a child you won't be able to have a carefree holiday in a long, long time (although I'm sure someone will pipe up say they managed to!). And you'll find it even harder to justify the cost once you have kids.

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    Hi there just wondering when the trip would be? Will you hold of ttc for months before the trip? You may not wish to travel os if you fall pregnant? How about a trip sooner in time with your mum so you can really enjoy it? Maybe a shopping and dining spree in Melbourne or gold Coast or a week in Hawaii? I would have loved to have a trip with mum before we had kids but that is now a distant memory haha☺

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    take the trip and enjoy it. you sound like you're in a good position financially and not like the trio has to cost an arm and a leg. budget for it and stick to your budget when you're travelling.

    you can't put your life on hold while ttc as you don't know how long it'll take

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    Thanks for the replies, we would be looking at doing the trip in June. I wasn't going to stop TTC because even if I got pregnant soon I wouldn't be so far along that I couldn't travel. Then again maybe I am being a little naive about the discomfort of potentially flying long haul when pregnant ?!
    There's a particular dream trip we have in mind in the USA, but I suppose a compromise could be a shorter, cheaper version closer to home. I would probably have to spill the beans though!

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    My first instinct would be to say go. If it was me though I would hold off ttc until after the trip. Stuffed if I would spend all that money travelling not to be able to enjoy a glass of wine with my mum. That's just me though.

    That being said if taking the trip would make it difficult for you to save the $$ for a good chunk of mat leave (10 months etc) then I wouldn't go. You mentioned you may not get a chance to travel on a girls trip with your mum again for quite some time - however you will never get back that first year of your child's life.

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    I would go - you're likely not going to get the chance again.

    There's time to sort out the mat leave issue - you can look at taking it half-pay to stretch it out, government ppl or your partner increasing his earning capacity (second job, overtime etc).

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    my only hesitation going pregnant (even if only very early along) is not being able to eat/drink whatever you like plus if something happens overseas, you could be up for huge doctors bills. my bil's wife as ill in the states (turns out she was pregnant just didn't know it yet!) and they said 1 doctors visit and 2 scripts cost over $800. they got most back on travel insurance but it could be costly.

    it's totally up to the individual but if personally rather not travel pregnant. if you started bleeding say, what would you do? it just has the potential to ruin the trip. plus you don't want to feel constrained in everything you eat/drink/do.

    obviously you may not be a big drinker so this may not apply.

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    Yep i wouldnt travel pregnant either, not just because i love wine 😄 but because when i am pregnant i feel rotten, can barely function, just want to sleep and be near hubby... that is why i suggested a trip closer in time (as in very soon) and delay ttc. ☺

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    my only hesitation going pregnant (even if only very early along) is not being able to eat/drink whatever you like plus if something happens overseas, you could be up for huge doctors bills. my bil's wife as ill in the states (turns out she was pregnant just didn't know it yet!) and they said 1 doctors visit and 2 scripts cost over $800. they got most back on travel insurance but it could be costly.

    it's totally up to the individual but if personally rather not travel pregnant. if you started bleeding say, what would you do? it just has the potential to ruin the trip. plus you don't want to feel constrained in everything you eat/drink/do.

    obviously you may not be a big drinker so this may not apply.
    Yes this. I didn't realise you may go when already pregnant.


 

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