We've just moved to Canberra. I've got a 5yo, 3yo and 3mth old. Dh works long hours. I've gone from a life with a fabulous social scene with amazing friends, close and interfering family to nothing.
I do realise that it will take time to get that same thing here in Canberra. Especially when school starts and playgroup resumes. But how do you cope in the beginning?
I've joined a gym, gone to the library, joined 2X meet up groups, made random conversation with every check out operator in order to have adult conversation.
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15-01-2016 05:50 #1
How do you cope with loneliness??
15-01-2016 08:41 #2
Facebook and Bubhub?
I don't have any friends IRL, the result of moving interstate a couple of times and me just being ridiculously introverted. I hate to think what life would have been like in the days before social media. Local AP and ABA and baby wearing groups on Facebook are a great way to meet like minded people. It sounds like you're doing a great job of getting out there though, and you seem super nice so I'm sure you'll settle in soon. But hugs in the meantime
15-01-2016 10:07 #3
Rose i just tried to message you on the app but im not sure mine is working I shall try again
15-01-2016 10:21 #4
It sucks. We moved to WA when I was 5 months pregnant with #3 and my others were 5 and 18 months. I was so lonely. I cried every day. And we live minutes from the beach so we had heaps to do.
Really until school started it took me a while to find my way. Even then it took time as Perth can be very cliquey, and many people were suspicious about how long we'd be in Perth so didn't want to make a huge effort to befriend us.
For my kids sake I just had to keep smiling and putting myself out there. once school started we had lots of play dates. I accepted every invitation we received.
I still remember turning 40 6 months after we moved and thinking "who the ---- am I going to invite to a party?". I wound up inviting a whole bunch of people I'd met only once or twice and it turned into a really nice afternoon.
It will be hard until the school year kicks off. We've been here 5 years now and only now feel settled.
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15-01-2016 10:46 #5Junior Member
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Apart from the kids I'm in the same boat!! Moved to Canberra on the first day of Spring, have some extended extended family down here that we haven't met since moving. I WAH full time, so I don't get out much! Difference in being an introvert, but we've also joined a gym (Flame Fitness at Tuggers) and I've started hot-desking with WOTSO at Symonston two-three days a week to get my social interaction quota up to par.
Definitely feel your pain looking for adult conversation with local check-out operators. My job requires some phone work, so I usually hold onto client calls just that little bit too long that I notice and cringe after hanging up!
15-01-2016 10:56 #6Senior Member
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15-01-2016 11:25 #7
15-01-2016 11:44 #8Senior Member
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Hi R,A & H,
It can be hard to make new friends. I live in Canberra and have a 2 yr old, 4 yr old and 5.5 yr old. I'm happy to meet up sometime if you like. I live on the Northside. If you're interested you can message me and I'll give you my Facebook name and we can organise something
Kid City run playgroups during the term which is an indoor play centre. It costs about $8 per child and it includes entry for the day, morning tea and an art activity. The only other things I can suggest are other playgroups etc and hopefully you can meet people that way.
15-01-2016 11:50 #9
Hi big hugs. We moved to Canberra a year ago this month. I've not made any connections. Partly because I'm terrible at socialising BUT Canberra is seriously cliquey. I've sent you a PM
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15-01-2016 11:50 #10
Damn. I wrote this whole msg and lost it!!!
Anywhoo long story short I caught up with a long lost cousin today very happy after that.
Also went to a defence playgroup and met other lonely mums. I should start a lonely mums club. Haha.
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