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11-01-2016 20:21 #21-
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11-01-2016 20:26 #22
I couldn't cope as a parent without it.
I really feel for you The advice I want to give (though I know it's probably utterly impractical) is that life is too short to spend being miserable, something needs to change so why not pack up and move your family back to… Ireland was it?
I know it's easy for me to say, and again - probably totally useless advice, but I really do hope you find something to help turn things around.
11-01-2016 20:45 #23Senior Member
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Sorry OP but most of your threads on here point to one main issue- your inconsiderate, selfish, a$$ of a DP. From what you post, it is clear that he doesn't respect you, he doesn't support you, as an individual and as a mother.
No wonder you feel so overwhelmed all of the time.
I really believe you need to focus on your marriage first; if you two have a strong and united partnership, then all these other things will be easier.
Have you spoken to him about maybe getting some counselling?
11-01-2016 20:46 #24
For me having my parents nearby has been a godsend when DP isn't here (he works overseas). They moved nearby about 3 months ago. They look after DD so I can clean the house, go to the hairdresser, etc. When DP is home he is a far better 'housewife' than me so I don't need my parents support although they babysit sometimes so DP and I can spend alone time together and it is very appreciated.
As another PP indicated, maybe the issue is more with your DP not being supportive and understanding enough
11-01-2016 21:06 #25Senior Member
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No excuse, he should have come home, but old habits taught by his mum, who thinks a woman should be a workhorse, die hard.
I'd like to think that 2 years away from MIL have softened him up a bit, and probably taught me to stick up for myself a bit more. I wouldn't let it happen that way again.
11-01-2016 21:09 #26
11-01-2016 21:14 #27
My family support is childcare. How sad is that.
Without it i would go crazy 😂
11-01-2016 21:19 #28
We don't have any family support.
Our children are in bed at 8pm at the latest so we have our own time then.
Also, I am a school teacher but my school aged kids go to vacation care 2 or 3 days each week in the school holidays. That's my time to get to appointments, visit the accountant, get the car serviced, go to the movies, catch up with childless friends, etc.
My husband and I have to go out separately or pay a babysitter if we want to go to dinner.
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