I agree no one owns a name, and I wouldn't ask. I would give them a heads up, though. Just a friendly "hey, we really love cyz name for baby and we know you might find it odd, but we're most likely going to use it. You have great taste!"
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09-01-2016 22:16 #11
09-01-2016 22:31 #12Senior Member
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While no one owns a name
I would be bothered if a friend did that.... Particularly more so if it was an uncommon name (as I have one myself and enjoy it being un common)
If your ask there not going to say go for it, going by there reaction already
09-01-2016 22:54 #13Junior Member
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I wouldn't ask if it's "okay". It is your child and everyone has the right to name their child what they like. Just because you're friends doesn't limit the choice of baby names. I'd feel honoured if someone chose my child's name. Just means they love it as much as I do!
If it ruins a friendship - I'd be questioning the friendship.
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10-01-2016 03:55 #14Senior Member
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I wouldn't ask, but I'd tell...they kne it was on your short list with first baby as you told them that, so just let them know it's back on your short list. No one owns a name, even if it is unusual. But given their reaction I'd at least let them know it was going to be a possibility.
10-01-2016 06:12 #15
We were really hesitant with our dS2's name because it was also the name of DH's grandmother's father, brother and still born son. We ummed and ahhhed over whether or not to ask Grandma but in the end decided we wanted to use the name no matter her answer. Thankfully she was delighted.
10-01-2016 06:42 #16
I would just tell them you're using it. I've had about 3 close friends over the years that I thought I would always be friends with, then for one reason or another we've drifted apart. I'd have hated to have made a lifelong decision based on my friendship with them, only to have the friendship die out later. If it's a name you love, go for it.
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10-01-2016 07:04 #17
Would you ask?
Use it. It's your life not theirs. Beat to your own drum. They will get over it. How precious if they don't like it. Any friend of mine can use my kids name and I would think great choice!
10-01-2016 07:47 #18
Agree with the majority here - it's not their place to tell you what name they approve of for your child, so don't ask the question.
A true friend wouldn't make an issue of it, even if they are a little miffed.
10-01-2016 07:51 #19
The only time I think its necessary to ask is if you are using the name of a deceased child. If someone close to me used my stillborn daughter's name without running it by me I would in all honesty never speak to them again. If someone close used my living son's name I wouldn't expect to be asked/told, his father chose it and its not very original!
10-01-2016 08:12 #20
We had friends that had a girl a few months before us and they used the name that we had picked (but hadnt told anyone) we just told them that we have actually pucked the same name and we had a laugh.
You have already gotten a reaction out of them so i wouldnt mention it again
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