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    Default Kissing toddlers on the lips - WDYT?

    I have a 3 year old DS. His grandma (my MIL) kisses him on the lips, which he doesn't mind, despite the fact that she's been asked not to.

    I hate it. It's not something I ever did with my parents or any other relative. I think it's unnecessary. I think it spreads germs and when it comes time to talk to DS about sexual harassment/ appropriate behaviour, I want his mouth to be an 'exclusion zone', ie, adults don't kiss him on the mouth or put anything in his mouth. I think having his grandma mack him on an exclusion zone will be confusing.

    I respect the fact that not everyone feels this way so this is purely what I want with my son. Absolutely no judgement to anyone who kisses their kids on the mouth.

    DH doesn't like it but his mother kissed him on the mouth too when he was young so he just doesn't want to start a fight with her.

    What do you think I should do?

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    Honestly at 3 I don't see a problem with kissing on the lips but I can see where you're coming from. Can you explain to her exactly why you aren't comfortable with her kissing your ds on the lips and specify what you'd prefer her to do? He's your son so bottom line is it's your rules.

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    I don't like it either and it would annoy me too. I would remind her every single time she did it.

    Making kissing on the lips an exclusion zone may cause issues later. What if he sees other parents kissing their kids on the lips? His first thought would be it is inappropriate and sexual harassment.

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    It's such a hard one. I was completely anti lip kissing, but my son just goes for the lips with anyone he kisses.
    We encourage high fives and fist bumps when he sees someone we don't want him to kiss on the mouth.
    My mil kisses everyone on the mouth and I hate it. She's a good morning, good afternoon and good night kisser too

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    Exclusion zone? It's a bit hard when he will see adults kids and parents kiss other kids. I'm ok with what ever my ds is ok with. I never force him to hug or kiss anyone.

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    If he doesn't mind then I don't see a problem. It's his body, as you say, and if he is happy to kiss his grandma on the lips then I think it's hypocritical to say he can't. If he didn't like it and she forced it, I would see a problem.

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    Your kid your call. Personally in not a fan if kissing anyone other than a sexual partner on the mouth. If an adult kissed my kids on the lips I would ask them to stop. Cold sores for one - yuck!

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    Default Kissing toddlers on the lips - WDYT?

    @rainbowroad - Why hypocritical? Is that really the word you're after?

    I will have to find a way for him to understand that some people do that in their families but he doesn't. I hadn't thought of that!
    @VicPark - I forgot about cold sores! My germ phobia is in overdrive on this.
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    I personally don't like it. I completely understand where you are coming from and totally agree.

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    Default Kissing toddlers on the lips - WDYT?

    We're a kiss on the lips family... It just sort of evolved that way as when our DD was little she always went for the mouth.
    Now she's 11.5, and big sis to DD6 and DS5, and it's still the norm around here. I'm thinking in a couple of years she'll start turning her head and go for the cheek.

    Not sure why some people are sexualising it... It's a little disturbing.

    Sit your MIL down and explain your feelings about the kisses. Perhaps you could have DS fall in love with butterfly kisses or Eskimo kisses to try and deflect?
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