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    Good one @WaitRose.

    I occasionally responded "as far as I know you can't get pregnant from swallowing, so no time soon!" but I mostly used to deflect those questions. My husband used to say "when we can find a decent used one at a good price" which really confused a few people.

    We are both ultra-private, and very self-contained as a couple. We talk to each other a lot but not really to anyone else at all. We both have families which are uncomplicated but who we find very difficult. We didn't want to tell anyone, and I initially refused the fitness program at our clinic because I didn't want anyone to know anything about me and that I was having fertility treatment.

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    @buffy me and my hubby are exactly the same, very reserved people.
    I find myself even becoming more reserved with the few friends I have as I just don't want them asking me about when we are having babies. I'm hibernating big time.

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    I've only ever been asked this question from my parents, but my response would be the same with anyone else (other than super close friends)..."don't know yet". And if they start pushing for a different answer I would either say the same thing again or flat out ignore them. I'm okay with being blunt or coming across rude to certain people. It's such an invasive question it surprises me how many people lack the tact to just not ask.

    I actually told DP not to tell ANYONE when we start trying except maybe his best friend, although TBH I find most people I know are thoughtful enough to let us be (and a lot of them don't actually care because it doesn't effect them, anyway).

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdornedWithCats View Post
    I don't belong in this section though the question annoys me too!

    Recently I heard this response:

    Approximately 9 months after they are concieved.
    I love this response! We've been pretty honest about our ivf journey but that can sometimes bring additional pressure by way of unsolicited advice; or the difficulty of breaking bad news when things don't go your way. I agree that it generally comes from a good place but sometimes well meaning people can hurt your feelings.

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    I always responded with
    We have beautiful fur children they are so much easier than human babies.
    People think you are the crazy dog lady (partially true!) but most don’t even attempt to ask anything further, just start talking about dogs.
    We didn’t tell anyone about our ivf and everyone really thought we were happy with our dog “kids” as we both never expressed desire to have children to anyone. It was a huge blessing when we took so long to conceive.

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    I used to get asked and hated it. Then finally when we did get pregnant via donor egg ivf after years, people have started asking “did you fall pregnant naturally or via ivf?”

    Stupid people never stop asking stupid questions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chmeille View Post
    I used to get asked and hated it. Then finally when we did get pregnant via donor egg ivf after years, people have started asking “did you fall pregnant naturally or via ivf?”

    Stupid people never stop asking stupid questions.
    People can be very insensitive and ask intrusive questions.

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