Ds has been in with us since birth. He is almost 2. I was initially shocked by the intense emotions/instincts I had after he was born...we had a bassinet attached to the bed (arms reach cosleeper) but even that felt too far away for me so we have bedshared since day 1.
You won't really know what you'll prefer until bub arrives. I would recommend following the guidelines (roomshare until at least 6 months). I would try to be as supportive of your wife as possible, especially breastfeeding which can be very difficult early on. Roomsharing is also much easier for night feeds etc.
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29-12-2015 10:40 #41
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29-12-2015 10:53 #42
DS's cot was in our room until he was close to a year old. It worked well for us.
He had no issue transitioning into his own room when we moved the cot in there.
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29-12-2015 12:01 #43
OP, it's hard to say really what will work for your baby until s/he is born.
SIDS guidelines are just that - guidelines. If your baby is in their own cot in their own room with the door open and your bedroom is next door for example, then there's no problem with that. Just make sure bub is wrapped well so that the swaddle / wrap can't come lose and go over the baby's face, don't have a cot bumper, no blankets, but is at the bottom of the cot, there's no toys, mum and dad both don't smoke and preferable don't drink, bub will still be safe.
But that's just my opinion. I wanted my kids to be in a cot in their own rooms but their cots were too big for them and they needed to be cuddled or fed to sleep from birth, but had they have slept there, I would have let them.
I guess if anything your thread just shows how passionate people are about all aspects of parenting, take everything with a grain of salt, keep it in the back of your head and do what feels right with you and your wife, what works for your bub and if you follow anyone's recommendations, make it those of a midwife, OB, GP or MCHN, not those of us on a forum you don't know. There's no right or wrong way. It's not neglectful to have a bub in their own room, so if it works for your family and your health practitioners agree, then go for it.
Here's a link to the guidelines and the evidence and reasoning behind bedroom sharing. http://www.sidsandkids.org/wp-content/uploads/SIDS_SafeSleeping_A4_IS_RoomSharingLR1web1.pdf
All the best with the birth of your bub.
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29-12-2015 14:17 #49
Can't see how it's not possible to have your baby sleeping in the same room as you for the first 6 months??
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