In answer to your question. No, it's not rude. My mum came over on Xmas day ( we're currently in the UK ) and she called our family in Europe and had a very long loud phone call in another language. I couldn't understand a word but loved every minute. Any words she could teach my DD would be wonderful. Christmas is a time for sharing and family so the perfect forum.
A very British friend and her daughter were here and weren't interested and just occupied themselves doing something else. To hear the words was fascinating to me and we all had a laugh over mine and my husbands clear blunders of translation. I dunno. I find it all brings such richness to life.
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27-12-2015 19:55 #51
grandparents talking in a different language: wdyt
27-12-2015 20:03 #52
The main thing I took away from your OP was that I believe you said they were doing it while they were playing with him, that's the key bit of info that makes me have no issue with it. They were playing and being loving towards him and I think it's great they did that expressing themselves in their own language. I don't see the fact that this was Christmas as reason for them not to do, I don't get why that matters unless others were visibly annoyed by it.
As far as it not happening enough for him to understand, even though my danish is almost non-existent, I could still get the gist of what my grandparents would say to each other. But, if they'd made an effort to speak directly to me I probably would have picked up much, much more. It's proven that children pick up on another language much easier and faster than adults do.
27-12-2015 20:07 #53
All this has made me think maybe I should enroll DS in one of the little toddler french or Spanish playgroup classes over here to get the ball Rollin in his ability to understand other languages when school starts ☺️
27-12-2015 20:44 #54
OP I noticed that you refer yourself as Aussie more than anything in your OP but later you called yourself polish.
To me it hinted like maybe you have an uneasy positioning regarding your background and current culture?
Maybe that's why it annoyed you? Because you are yourself unsure of your own positioning about it all?
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28-12-2015 00:23 #55
culturally I'd consider myself more Aussie than polish. was born here, grew up here, mainly English speaking.
I have pure polish blood though, both sets of grandparents were 100% polish, as are my parents (despite being born in UK). grandparents were born and raised in Poland until the war broke out.
so despite being pure polish, i'd say my attitudes etc are more Aussie. we attended polish school and I never felt at home with the other polish kids (the polish exports).
I'm not confused at all.
28-12-2015 00:37 #56
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28-12-2015 07:04 #57
Although having a baby who speaks more than one language can be challenging! My son is at the stage where he's still not very clear with his words and gets frustrated when you don't understand but for us we are like "what's he trying to say? Is it English, Spanish or mandarin?!!"
28-12-2015 21:45 #58
28-12-2015 22:59 #59
grandparents talking in a different language: wdyt
A PP mentioned that inlaws who feel excluded should learn the language.... I don't think that's often practicable. Fair enough to learn a few basics sentences however it can be quite difficult to learn a new language to the point of there you can join in-depth conversions. It took me three years living overseas to sort of be able to speak another language, and that was with really trying!
In summary I think in such settings a mixture of the two languages should be spoken. This is coming from personal experience, having dated people from non-English speaking backgrounds in the past and being the 'excluded inlaw'.
30-12-2015 03:26 #60
Being polish, German and Maltese my self but mostly "Aussie". My Oma used to teach me German/polish all the time as a child. But sitting down one on one and with my brother during games, cooking experiences and activities. Not just random convos when other people are around.
I can't understand Maltese and when (it's rare) my grandparents speak it l get a little frustrated "like hello speak English I can't understand you".
It's not rude that they want to instil some of their culture into him, I think their timings off. Doing it infront of your bil etc.
I think your concern is valid and you'll prob have to revisit this once your Bub is here.
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