I'm lucky in that I've never had anything nasty said to me by my kids.
There have been some things that hurt though.
Like my perfectionist DS2 who is very hard on himself when he tried new things and doesn't get it right. He always says things like "I suck at this", but once I remember him saying "I suck at this, I can't do anything right, and I hate myself". He got a talking to about that one.
The other morning I was upset/angry all day about a comment my DS1 said while walking out the door for school. He has Aspergers and has a lot of catastrophic thoughts, which really upset me because this warped view is his actual view of real life. Anyway he was sulking around and I asked him what's wrong and he got all teary and said "You call me mean names all the time!!" I was soooooooooo annoyed. I stewed on it all day. He did apologise to me in the afternoon but I know he was just doing it because it was expected of him, I have no doubt that in his little head he believes I call him names. Pretty hurtful as a parent to know that.
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19-12-2015 07:49 #21Senior Member
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19-12-2015 08:03 #23
The "you're mean" and "I hate you" comments are like water off a ducks back to me- I see it as confirmation I am doing a good job haha
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19-12-2015 08:07 #24
Me: uh, no...
Ds1: then why is your tummy so big?
Whilst it is a bit funny, I was a bit hurt because I have worked so hard to lose my tummy this year!
He has the usual "I never get anything/ you don't love me/ how rude of you" comments. 4 has been a tricky age...
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19-12-2015 08:14 #26Senior Member
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My 4 yo treasure when throwing a tantrum because she's been told off/told no - "you're not my best friend anymore!!!"
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19-12-2015 08:20 #27
19-12-2015 08:59 #28
"I feel like I want to kill myself"...
No, we don't believe he meant it (when he 'learns' something new, he tends to 'use' it to his advantage. He said this after I said he had had enough treats. Last year he was saying he would shoot someone for similar things, after seeing it on the news).
But, yes we are taking it seriously- not worth the chance.
19-12-2015 09:04 #29
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19-12-2015 10:32 #30
Even though DD doesn't say mean things it's the attitude/tone and eye rolling that drives me absolutely crazy!!
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