Wow, just wow. Today my husband went to work with three big baskets of goodies that I put together for his female staff ($100 Lush products, Dusk candle, a book (targeted to their interests), wine, biscuits and chocolates all done up in a hamper with ribbons etc.
Then he took his bookkeeper aside and advised her on bonuses for all his staff from $500 up to $2000 each - she got $2K. One of the other ladies didn't get a bonus, and the bookkeeper asked why not, and my DH replied that he's already organised with her in lieu of a bonus, a payrise next year. Which of course the bookkeeper would have been told about in the new year anyway as she does the pays up.
So instead of being grateful for a really nice gift and a $2K bonus, she starts hounding my DH about why the other girl gets a pay rise and she doesn't. She has had a pay rise already this year and is on a really good wage, and her job is TOTALLY different to the other girl who is a qualified engineer, so there is no comparison.
In the end the bookkeeper lost it and started crying and walked out - my DH had to leave to go to a meeting and he was that angry and upset. Even though the bookkeeper has to do the pays so knows everyone's wage, surely it is none of her business what pay anyone else is on? If she feels underpaid then surely she should ask for a raise, not compare herself to a totally different class of job and pay rate?
DH looks after all his staff really, really well - he expects a lot, but he gives a lot back. He said he feels like going back into the office and tearing up all the bonus slips and they can all get stuffed.
Where is the gratitude?
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18-12-2015 13:46 #1
Why Are People So Ungrateful?
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18-12-2015 14:01 #2
I would be so embarrassed if I were that bookkeeper. No way known j would have the gall to ask for a pay rise just because someone else got one!
Your husband sounds very generous- but she is completely out of line. I would be expecting an apology from her regarding her behaviour- otherwise I would have another chat with her stating what you have said here.
My df gets a $100 Coles Myer gift card from the multi billion dollar company he works for, and has worked for, for the past 15 years. I don't think your bookkeeper realises how good she has it!
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18-12-2015 14:03 #3
Give her the sack ill come work for him. Im between jobs atm
18-12-2015 14:05 #4
wtf!? why would she give a sh*t about what others receive? just do as you're told, thank your boss for a generous bonus and gift and go home and enjoy Christmas. her reaction is ridiculous. has she got other issues going on?
18-12-2015 14:06 #5
My total pay rises over 3 years barely add up to $2K in total. And we don't get xmas bonuses, presents, or even a staff party for that matter. Despite our company having its best year ever and raking in literally millions. A $2K bonus is more than generous!
It's really unprofessional of her to even ask the question in the first place. What she gets paid v everyone else is not her business - and as a bookkeeper she should know that's all highly confidential information. She sounds immature as well as ungrateful, and clearly doesn't realise how good she has got it!
18-12-2015 14:13 #6Senior Member
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Why Are People So Ungrateful?
Wow she sounds so ungrateful, your DH has every right to be angry/ upset. Like Nomsie said I don't think she realises how good she has it. DH works for a large multinational company; he works his butt off including weekends and late nights. Every year his Christmas bonus is a generic Big W hamper, nothing special. But it's all good because bonus' are just that, a bonus! You're not entitled to it and you're lucky to get it.
If I were your DH I'd seriously be considering her future employment in my company; she's way out of line!
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18-12-2015 14:13 #7
Your husband sounds like he is a very fair and kind Employer. That book keeper is lucky she isn't going to be looking for a new job. She has a very good job by the sounds of it.
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18-12-2015 14:13 #8
I don't get it either - she must have something else going on to react like that. Being only three women in a company of mainly men, I guess it does get a bit competitive between the girls about who is most "essential" to the company - so maybe she had some insecurities coming about that. DH is always telling her how valuable she is to the company - not only did she get a good pay rise this year (I think about $10k) plus bonus, plus gift, he also took all the staff out for a Christmas dinner too.
No wonder DH is gobsmacked. I agree, I don't think she realises how good she has it - I've never gotten a bonus like that in my life!
18-12-2015 14:20 #9
She does't realise how good she has it! My DH has worked with the same employer for 12 years now. Its government so no Christmas bonuses, gifts or paid Christmas party and has hasn't had a pay increase for years.
I'm astounded at her reaction - pay rise this year, and just been told she's getting the highest Christmas bonus (2k!!) and she throws a tantrum? Wow. Unprofessional is about the kindest thing I can say about that.
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18-12-2015 14:22 #10
she is way out of line, so far out of line, I would be seriously considering showing her the door. as the company bookkeeper, she should know it is always confidential what pay rate the employees receive, and it is totally wrong for her to even mention what another staff member is being paid. as for her to be demanding/requesting the same pay. !!! not at all acceptable behaviour. marie.
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